Does having a baby make a couple argue more?

Question

- we argue a lot more now that we have a baby, with all arguments being about a disagreement over a baby issue.

- does a baby put a strain on the marriage?

- does s*x go down after babies? if so why?

Answer 1

Definitely. I know that even though me and my hubby have no babies. It's common sense.

Answer 2

Yes! Yes! and Yes!

Babies or children can and do add strain on a marriage. The main reason is stress. s*x life slows down after having children because they take more time, you have less sleep, now you see where the stress is coming in.  

Answer 3

oh yes it can and s*x for a while may be strained to but time will help

It so important you both all you can to make things straight with you get a baby sitter and have a night out were u can really talk

Answer 4

i havent found this. it all depends on the couple. me and m,y husband still have as much se (3 - 4times a week).

It hasnt put a strain on our marriage we are closer and stronger than ever.

We dont really disagree over the baby. We think ehen we have a problem 'how do we overcome this difficulty as a team?' rather than just argueing. That isnt productive and wont fget you anywhere. Change your mindset and it will benefit your relationship.

We are equal parents i am working 21 hours a week and my husband 40. He can do less hours as i work. He uses that spare time to help cook, clean and care for our daughter. She is now 6 months and i am loving every minute.

Answer 5

It can make a couple argue more. If there was a strain to begin with it gets worse. You are tired and your temper might be short. One person might not pull his or her own weight with the child care and housework. The s*x might go down from all the fighting or from the exhaustion.

Answer 6

Oh Yeah!

I never known having a baby ever to solved anything.  

Answer 7

I think there is a little more arging that goes on, but its mainly because its a new thing in your life and lack of sleep and being scared that you won't do the best you can. I don't think a baby puts a strain on your marriage unless you let it. Adding a new person to a couple just makes it seem more like a family to me. I'm on number 3 and couldn't be happier. Yeah we squabble at each other but at the end of the day we still love each other.

The s*x can go down yes, not enough time in the day after taking care of a baby and then just wanting to take a hot bath or shower and go to bed. When the little ones get older it becomes a little more eaiser but not by a lot. Just gotta find those moments to yourself when you have the time.

If I could I would keep popping babies out, but I think 3 is enough for me.  

Answer 8

Yes and yes.

The husband can feel jealousy over you doting on the child, which takes attention away from him. He then feels neglected, which seems to adhere to the trickle-down theory. In other words, problems snowball until they get so big that you want to just give up.

You guys are adjusting to the huge new role of being parents while still trying to be a couple. That's hard to do and many people don't acknowledge this, but it's true. It takes a lot out of marriage with the stress of the new child, your possibility of post-partum, and worrying about his needs.

I think you need to sit down and chat (when you have a chance) and discuss your thoughts and fears with each other. I think if you guys feel like you are at least listening to each other's needs, perhaps the rest will fall into place.

Answer 9

Yes...

Add in stress, not sleeping, anxiety, plus other factors.  If things were not clear before the baby (feeding, cost, discipline, play schedule, etc.), then trying to make it work now is tough.  

Look into parenting classes.  Get some parenting books.  Discuss the issues that are troubling you when you aren't in the heat of it.  Get on the same page.  Learn to back each other up instead of being divisive.

Right now it's little things, later it will be big things as they turn into teenagers.  Learn to work together now or you will be having a ton of more problems later.

Answer 10

Yes yes & yes........Things are a lot tuff once you have kids, You both need to realize this and work with eachother.  You have a choice to make at this point, you can partner as parents and as husband and wife to take on the little bundle of joy or you can fight.  

In other words, slow down step back and asses what you HAVE to DO for your child plan it and do it.  Do not be afraid to seek counseling if you need help to, both of you owe that to the baby!