Does he deserve ANOTHER chance? he says that he LOVES me but he ONLY LIKES her!? what should i do! stay or go?

Question

this guy that i have been off and on with for about 1 year and a half. is my first love and im his too. 1m 17 and so is he. except hes a senior and im a junior.

he is "talking" to this girl that he kind of likes. he says he only likes her about 4 of 10 and me 9 of 10.

but anyways.

we stopped talking for a while and then came back to eachother like we always do.

but there is this other girl that he likes too. but he says that he wouldnt ever go out with her. but he asked me if we could just claim eachother and blah blah blah instead of going out. just because when we go out we argue too much. and thats always been a problem with us is the arguing.

over the weekend i decided that we just need to move on and let it go.

earlier on. whenever i say that he convinces me to stay.

this time i got my friend to tell him indirectly from me.

without him knowing that i told her to say that.

she was just like we were talking to sarah this weekend and she say she doesnt want you anymore.

i thought he would stop talking to me after that.

but of course he convinces me yet again. and he says that he loves me. and that he only likes her and that theyre not tht serious they just hang out everyonce in a while but he couldnt ever go out with her.

should i just stay obviously if hes taking so much to convince me?

i mean he says that he loves me and wants me like he tells my friends all the time.

which is what makes me stay

Answer 1

I know how you feel. I've been through a similar situation and my advice is to just try to move on. Its going to be hard but have the help of a friend so you won't keep going back to the guy. no offense but wtf!? how can he love you if he likes a bunch of girls. you need to value yourself more than that. he's a jerk and you deserve much better than that. so just forget about him.

good luck!    

Answer 2

GET OUT NOW!!  Don't waste your time.

Answer 3

if he loves you that there is no need to LIKE another girl. u can do better and find a guy who loves you, and only you. without no other chick in the pic.  

Answer 4

You are 17 and dont NEED to wait around on a guy to decide which girl is the one today. He has all the power because you wait on him, you let him talk you into staying with him and you will always wonder about the other girl. You dont need it. You dont have to do that for him, you deserve better.

Answer 5

You still 'rate' each other out of 10, aren't you a bit old for that?

The fact he's even looking at other girls should have you on your bike.

Just leave, you're only postponing the inevitable.

It might be hard at first, but with time you'll get over it, and regret not leaving earlier.

Answer 6

I wouldn't stay.  He seems a little immature with the whole 4 and 9 out of 10 deal. and it sounds like he only wants to "claim" you so that he can do things with the other girl without getting into trouble because he's dating you.

If you're not sure that you want to be with him, then you obviously dont like him enough to stay with him. especially if he has to convince you to stay

Answer 7

go, you don't have time for this b*llsh*t. If you go back to him, he will probably be "only friends" with the other girl. You're better off without him. Or you can disscuss this with him saying your decision.

Answer 8

if you want to give him one more chance then that is up to you--however, make it very clear that he only gets one more chance or he's gone.

you were already arguing with each other before this other person was in the picture.  What's that about?  in the early stages of a relationship it should be bliss and good feelings, not arguing all the time.  The constant bickering tells you that you aren't compatible--even though you really like each other (you don't like each other enough to not argue and fuss constantly).  Why do you want to force a relationship with someone who you don't get along with and will eventually come to disrespect and hate because of the bickering?--that's the reason you should break up and go your separate ways.  Not because he had a passing flirting with someone else.

edit:

you're only 17, you don't need this kind of relationship drama (no one does really).  This is where you learn what works for you and what doesn't.  Constant bickering doesn't work for most people--it doesn't sound like it's working for either of you.

Answer 9

Thats a hard one. If you have proof he is cheating then leave him, If not trust him until he does, and when he does feel sorry for the person he cheated with. But hey he probably could be telling the truth, Just don't go rushing into anything major yet

Answer 10

Your only 17...just move on... I don't know anyone who is still with their hs sweetheart.  It's your first love and he always will be, but by the time you are like 25 you'll wonder what you even saw in him anyway.... It's hard to move on but you'll get through it.

Answer 11

give him another chance. i did the same thing with my boyfriend and the feelings i had for the other kid faded in less than a week, and now me and my boyfriend are celebrating our 3 year anniversary and couldnt be happier together<3

Answer 12

When you have a guy that you are dating and they like someone along with you, you have a pretty bad situation because you are not going to be number one on that person's list. You are going to start competing with this girl as if you guys are playing a game. Basically, he is going to get a chance to have his cake, ice cream and eat it all at the same time. Its not worth it and you are not worth the pain that you are about to encounter if you stay with that person. MOVE ON!!!!

Answer 13

If you are smart you will tell him to go. He is trying to play you both.

If he loves you and you are the number one in his life than he will be with ONLY you.

Why would you even think of him if he is talking to someone else he likes? That is crazy.  I wonder what he is telling her!!

He does not love you if he is talking to someone else.....

He is playing you.  

Answer 14

I didn't read the whole thing and the reason why is whenever your up against another female with one guy. It is never worth it. TEll him to get lost. Period.

Answer 15

YOU ASKED THIS ALREADY.

MOVE ON!!!

How much more do you want to hear it?

Answer 16

Honest opinion?  I feel he has too many females involved in his life.  Yes, he comes back to you, BUT he always seems to have these strings attached to other girls.  I say he's either yours & no one elses, or not yours at all.  Enuf of the game playing, & that's exactly what he's doing w/you. I wouldn't care of who's a 6,7,8.9. or 10.  That's just a bunch of bull.  If you're not going to be the ONLY one in his life, I'd tell him to move on & let him play these childish games w/the other girls.  Do you honestly need all these hastles in your life?  Don't you deserve the respect of being his one & only?  At this point of game playing, I'd put him in my past & start a new beginning for myself.  You totally do deserve it.  He's keeping you tied up so you can't have a chance of even trying to find someone completely new in your life.  Who cares what he tells his friends...talk is sure cheap & means nothing.  Action speaks louder than words.  Please for your sake you do the surprising & tell him you want to completely break off w/him.  No more calls, no more contacting because you're going to move on finally & you w/NOT take anymore contacting from him..and don't do it.  You deserve respect & trust.  You're NOT going to get it from him.  He's too busy rating girls.  Please do yourself a big favor & think of yourself for this once.  W/o him in your life, you have a big chance of finding someone who is going to give you exactly what you deserve.  Tell him no more, but mean it & by all means stick to it regardless of what he "feeds" others as to how he feels about you.  IF he honestly did care for you, there would be NO one else in his life.  Sorry, but admit to yourself & accept the fact this is not going to happen,  He can't be trusted, he can't be believed.  Move on yourself & you honestly w/be glad you did.  Get rid of that weight you're carrying around on your shoulder & you'll feel tons lighter.  Do this for you,  I know you CAN do it, you know you can do it.  So get it over with once & for all & see how much better you'll feel.  You w/be OK, you w/make out fine...All the best to you, & I trust you make the rite choice for you...:)  

Answer 17

Sorry but you NEED to break up with him. He rated you both? That's when you slap him!

Leave him, and after he's done having a 2 week relationship with a girl he promised he'd 'never date', he'll come running back trying to convince you he loves only you. Don't listen to him.

Honey, if you stay with this guy, you are being self-destructive and you know it.  

Answer 18

if he really did "love" you.. he wouldnt "like" some other girl, and it wouldnt be on and off, well maybe but i think u should stay, cause well even if he isnt the perfect guy, he still loves u alot, and cares that you two are together, and makesure he isnt into u for something u hav, cause that might be the reason hes so desperate to stay witchu.

Answer 19

no he is using u... he keeps saying that cuz he knows if he does you will stay

Answer 20

Girl,

No if i were you i would tell him its over forever.

Trust me the best to do is just move on and quit giving him chances

i know i went out with a kid 7 times and we both liked eachother but it just didnt work out.

And one chance was enough.

You deserve better then him and no matter what dont take it back,

try your best to not get convinced.

Its for the best.

sorry and i hope you get the best for you♥

:)

good luck

Answer 21

if he likes her, and he loves u, he doesnt want either of u then. if your truly in love with someone, there the only one you'll have feelings for. leave him, find some other guy that has feelings for only you.

Answer 22

someone who really loves you, wouldn't like another girl.  Move on.

Answer 23

I THINK U SHOULD TOTALLY DROP THIS DUDE. HES NOT WORTH UR TIME. THERE ARE ALOT OF FISH IN THE SEA. BUT U HAVE TO MOVE ON. THE SAME SITUATION HAPPEN TO ME. I WAS WITH A DUDE FOR A YEAR AND FIVE MONTHS AND I CAME TO THE CONCLUSTION THAT I REALLY DIDNT LIKE THIS GUY AND HE WASNT EVEN MY TYPE (I KNOW THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WIT UR SITUATION) BUT ANYWAYS IM WIT A NEW DUDE NOW AND WE HAVE BEEN GOING TOGETHER FOR HALF A YEAR. AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH. BUT I THINK U SHOULD DROP THIS DUDE. IF HE REALLY LOVES U HE WOULDN'T BE TALKING TO THIS OTHER GIRL.

GOOD LUCK