Does he deserve a third chance since from what I know they havent had s*x?

Question

My boyfriend and I are supposed to be moving to florida together. A girl called the house today, and told me she was supposed to be taking my boyfriend and child's father to breakfast for his birthday. He told me that he was going out of town with a guy friend at 6:00 in the morning and would return around 8:00 in the evening. I found out what was going on because he called at the same time he was supposed to be leaving. I called the friend and he told me they had no such plans. Then earlier he told me he was going to his cousins house, and he wouldnt let me come with him. Well I went to his cousins house he wansnt there. Now Im not stupid I know he is cheating. I know he doesnt care about me or our son. So here is where the revenge comes in and I want to know if I am wrong to do this. We were going to move to Florida so I can go to school, we live in indiana. Is it wrong to leave him here and make him find his own way to see his son? Should I never come back? Should I just come back when I finish school which well be about 2 years from now. Our son is 6 months old. And he cheated on me when I was 6 months pregnant!!!!! When I asked this question before people were angry because I shouldnt take a mans son away but he doesnt work, he wont feed our son baby food just bottles, he wont give him baths. He leaves him with people without asking and I come home to find him with his sister or someone. Does he deserve a trip to Florida to try to make things better or will history repeat itself. For the worse for me and my son. Oh and by the way. I called the girl and found out after I talked to him that she was taking him to breakfast. He told me that it was the girl from before that he cheated on me with who happens to have the same name. He told me he didnt know who the girl was and if it was the girl from before he didnt know why she was calling. But when I called the girl she told me she met him two days ago so it obviously isnt the same girl? I feel bad because I dont want my son to blame me when he asks where is his daddy, I dont want his father to look bad in his eyes despite what he has done to me?

Answer 1

you sound very mature for your age allot of females would just dump the guy and I'm out but you are actually thinking about his feelings and your son's i commend you for that but girl from somebody whose older we cant change them it doesn't work and as you said it history does repeat itself hasn't it already he needs to grow up a little more and afraid you cant help him with that I'm afraid if he goes with you or you take him with you since it sounds like you'll be paying i think your just in for heartache  

Answer 2

The last few sentences you wrote in regard to your son is what you need to keep in mind. I strongly believe you can save your son from a lot of confusion. You need to do what's right for you. Baby daddy will come along when he sees that you are not there to hold him afloat. He is cheating because he knows he can and you will be right there. I don't feel that you are taking him away from his son. You had these plans before and should continue them without him. It is for the best in my opinion. Baby daddy needs to straighten out his act. If not, then you both need to go your separate ways and co-parent this child without any drama. You don't want your son growing up conflicted about what is going with mommy and daddy. It is better to get those things worked out as soon as possible to save you and your child any future headaches.