Does he fancy me?, if not...what the ****!.?

Question

Well...i think this guy likes me..like a teacher. a few months back i left school and a few days after leaving i added him (i used to like from school )on a networking site, we chatted for ages on there, but my connection was bad so his messages never got through to me, so he said to add him on msn, which i no is wrong because he is going to be one of my teachers when i go back to my schools sixth form, and so does he. we talk about things non school related, which obviously worries me because i don't want either of us to get into trouble.

then about a week ago he said he was going to come in to school on my results day to say hello and stuff...but as he's new and nothing to do with the year i was in...he shouldn't really have come into school.

we have had conversations to do with his ex girlfriends, when he lost his virginity and other such things.. i no it seems a lil wierd already. but just wanted to see your thoughts and just check that i'm not paranoid. if i'm not... what should i do?

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Answer 1

He can get into deep trouble for this, maybe you should say to him that you too can stay friends but shouldn't be speaking like this.

Kinda unorthodox

Answer 2

Maybe he's just being friendly and trying to relate to you on some level, there is nothing wrong with him wanting to make sure you did okay in your GSCE results if he's going to be your teacher next term.

However and I will say this: he has absolutely no right to tell you personal things (especially if they have anything to do with his s*x life!) or contact you outside school hours in any such manner as you are still under his care as a teacher (it doesn't matter if he didn't teach you at GCSE). It's not only unethical and morally questionable it's actually illegal as you are under 18 and by law, he as a teacher, is in a position of in loco parentis (acting in place of your parents). It's very likely that if someone found out what he was doing he could lose his job (or worse) and you could get asked to leave the school (as they wouldn't want to be embarrassed in any way).

I had the same problem with one of my teachers (though I was much older than you are when it went on) and he used to do the same thing, it was very confusing because he used to tell me everything. And I mean everything! from his family and home life to how often he liked having s*x (eww, lol) and everything inbetween including his affairs and his past relationships. At the time I thought we were friends but them I realised that friends don't abuse their positions of trust and tell you intimate details of their life in such a manner when a) you don't want to know, b) are a student of theirs and c) they have no compunction as to your feelings about wanting to hear such things in the first place. In the end I ignored him and haven't spoken to him since, I've much more important things to be dealing with in my life than his personal foibles.

If you feel in anyway uncomfortable with the situation then break of any kind of personal contact with him, complain about him if he persists and refuse to even talk to him outside of school hours. Oh and stop messaging him on MSN and through other sites. He's been placed in a position of trust and power and he's abusing both of those things, so I would advise that you ignore him in the future.

If you need to talk some more then feel free to E-Mail me, it's in my profile.

Answer 3

ok wierd

Answer 4

That's just weird.

Why would you talk to him in the first place.

You're going to get him into a lot of trouble. He can get fired for that sort of thing.

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