Does he have a right to be involved?

Question

We met and immediately moved in together, it was a fairytale, a little later we found out that I was pregnant and decided to keep the baby because we were so happy, he was going to every doctors appt with me and he seemed so excited. I then found out that he is going through a MAJOR custody battle with his ex. I was even willing to do whatever I could to help him get full custody of her, due to financial means, he has put all of that on hold indefinately, meanwhile he doesn't even get to speak to his daughter. Now we are having a little girl... we had been arguing and he practically moved me back to my parents and they are helping me with everything, I never even hear from him (like 2 times in the last month) and he is saying he wants paternity test cause all of a sudden he doesn't think it's his baby. (even though the dates all more than match up) He won't even tell me if he wants to be apart of her life, just says he will make sure she is taken care of financially, I don't want him

Answer 1

this is a difficult 1 he shouldn't just walk out on u and the baby because shes a girl,i cant believe hes doing this to u just cause of his history u should ask him why,why hes doing this to u and the baby?h**l also miss the best parts the name picking,the giving birth,the first smile eg,this could be a fresh start for the 3 of yous,u could be a proper family.

Answer 2

File for child support. Maybe he will change his mind and maybe not. Either way you have to protect your child and make sure she is supported financially.

You made some serious mistakes. You moved in with him too quickly. It takes time to know someone. You had unprotected s*x with someone you barely knew. And finally, having a baby outside of marriage usually leads to heartbreak for all involved.

Answer 3

Your number one priority is your daughter. If he's not gonna be in the child's life then that's his loss. Love her and give her the best home you can. She doesn't deserve to go through the heartache of her dad coming and going. That seems to make it harder on the child. Stay at home with your parents and take care of your own. Your parents aren't going to put you out.

Answer 4

hi hun,how old are you? Im 23 and in a similar situation.I started seeing someone this time last year.We got on so well better than i ever had in any of my relationships before.He has a daughter with his first love.They were together for five years,broke up cause he cheated on her,had one night stand then baby!They didnt get back together but he only supports financially for the baby.Recently i found out i was preg just as i also found out he'd been cheating on me and trying to get back with x and be a family!!Hes not happy about this baby cause it will ruin chance of getting back with his x,i was used all along!Hes managing to control my life still even though i have my own flat and were not together.He says he wants to be there for baby cause its not babys fault.Hes a cheat and a liar,Id rather mayb cut him off completely.He only wants to see baby for same reasons as in your situation which i agree with you, isn't fair on baby.Best to focus on you and baby but what can we do about preventing them seeing baby??