Does he know I'm in love with him?

Question

Today I got to hang out with the man I love all morning. Anyway when I said goodbye I gave him a one-arm hug and all he did was pat me on the back twice. He didn't hug me back! What the heck does that mean?

Does he know I'm in love with him? I haven't told anyone that I'm in love with him.

I haven't been dropping signs and I've been treating him like a friend as if I don't have those feelings. We're both single and in our mid 20s.

Answer 1

I don't think it is possible to tell from this little information.  He could have done the back pat for multiple reasons, including that he knows you like him and doesn't want you to think the feelings might be mutual, that he was deep in thought and in a patting mood, or that he likes you and doesn't know you like him.

You have to talk to him - or kiss him.  Make a move.

Answer 2

I don't think he knows you're in love with him, especially because you did pull away from him two years ago.

As for the pat, I don't think it meant anything.  

Answer 3

well if you haven't given any hints about your feelings he's probably just trying to be respectful. If you want more tell him how you feel!  

Answer 4

Just come out and tell the guy how You feel don't keep doing the same old thing over and over it will drive You crazy, And LOVE? I would really define that,You could say pure CRUSH I think would be more to the point.Love is a BIG word don't use it lightly.

Answer 5

well the first thing you should do is drop signs that you really care for him. then when he returns the signs back take it a step futher. then ask him would you ever go out with me and wait for what he says and if he says y then say just woundering.

Answer 6

Well I expect it means something but it's anybody's guess what!

Overthinking these things can be really get your head in a twist - but let's give it a go! :-)

- It could mean that he does realise you like him and is trying to emotionally distance himself if he doesn't feel the same.

- It could mean that he does realise you like him but isn't sure how to react.

- It could be that he likes YOU but this means he is suddenly awkward about how to react around you (I have found that I am suddenly less natural with a girl when I realise I fancy her - it sucks quite frankly!)

- It could just be that he doesn't realise that you like him - but actually his affection is directed elsewhere at the moment.

- It could be that the memory of that "almost kiss" is making him nervous- whether he realises or not (but if he has hugged you since then this would seem unlikely)

- It could actually be that he was momentarily distracted and there is no special emotional implication.

What's my point? The only way to know for sure is to actually stick your neck out and make a play. Now, here I am advising you to do something that I would NEVER do myself but that doesn't mean I don't realise that it isn't a good thing to do (I'm just too scared of rejection, d'oh!)

You do have one great entry in the form of that "almost kiss" - you can ask him if he remembers it and bashfully admit that you froze in shock but wished you hadn't, gaguing his reaction should tell you everything you want to know.

Doing this when you are both slightly tipsy might make this easier to downplay it later if you don't get the result you want (don't be too drunk - just 2 or 3 drinks, tops) both of you can feel more comfortable if it can be written off as "just the drink" (even if you both secretly know it wasn't)

Bringing emotional stuff out into the open always carries risk, and if you don't want to do it then that is fine but in that case ASSUME NOTHING! There are so many possible interpretations that you would be foolish to get hung up on them so just carry on being a good friend and play the waiting game.

Best of Luck

Answer 7

I don't think he knows if you haven't been dropping signals.  

Start showing it!  See what happens.  

Tell him would help too.  That way it won't kill you keeping it in.