Does he really love's me like he says?

Question

Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years, and we have been living together for 4 years, and he knows how bad I want to have a baby and get married, but he says that it’s not time yet that we are still young! We are both 25 years old and we just bought a house like a year ago, I found out that he has been asking people about if what he feels for me is love or if he’s just used to me and talking to his friends about our relationship, about him asking that, and about him talking to his friends about us, that happened like around 2 years ago. And I just found out today and it just makes me think and wonder if he really love’s me. I spoke to him a while ago and I asked him if he really loves me and wants to be with me, and I asked him if he was sure of what he wanted and he said yes. I love him so much and I want to be with him, but I don’t know if what he says is true or not. About 10 months ago he bought an engagement ring and he still hasn’t given it to me, I know he still has it because I always grab it and look at it. I have gained weight, like around 30 pounds and some times I think that, that’s it. I’m on a diet now I have lost 10 pounds and I see that he likes it. He tells me that I’m not fat that I’m just a little thick from what I use to be. He says that he loves me no matter what I look like. But I’m confused I don’t know what to do. Is he being honest, I love him so much and I want to be with him, but I don’t know if what he says is true or not. What should I do?

Answer 1

Yah you should lose some weight, I dumped my old gf of 3 years because she refused to eat healthy.

Physical apearance is a top priority for men, if hes not attracted to your looks, what else is he going to be attracted to?

Answer 2

I agree with KC513

Answer 3

If he was asking the questions of love to his friend(s) two years ago and bought a house with you one year ago, that should tell you all you need to know.. As far as the engagement ring, I would stop looking at it. Let it be special when he proposes to you. Now, if he says he's not ready, why would you doubt his word? Respect his feelings too. He obviously has intentions for your future together and all the pressure you put on him is possibly scaring him just a little bit. Remember this: waiting until he's ready does not mean never, it just means waiting. At least he is being honest with you. It sounds like he takes marriage very seriously and realizes the tremendous responsibilities involved in caring for and raising a baby. Instead of concentrating on what he's going to do in the future, try relaxing a little bit and start enjoying what the two of you share. Show him your happy with who he is now. When he sees that your relaxed and enjoying what you both have together, you may then find that he will come around and you will have all your dreams come true with him. Good luck and remember he hasn't really done anything wrong.