Does he want an affair??

Question

If a married man does the following to another married woman: stares at her when she’s not looking; looks at her from across the room even when he’s talking to other people (and keeps looking back); stares at her when she walks by his office (they work together); always stares deeply into her eyes while they’re talking and smiles a lot more at her than at other people he talks to; always finds excuses to start talking to her; has a lower, tender tone of voice when talking to her (different from when he talks to others); always asks how she is and shares things about his life/feelings; gives her more attention than anybody else.

Does he have a crush? Is it inappropriate?

Answer 1

Ummm, yeah, it's highly inappropriate. Crush, nah, it's called lust & wanting what you can't have.

Answer 2

He might have a crush and it may be borderline inappropriate...especially if she is uncomfortable with it.

Answer 3

Unless the married woman is HIS wife then, yes, he has a crush and the behavior is inappropriate.  If the married woman doesn't express to him that his behavior is inappropriate and ask him to stop, she is out of line as well.

Answer 4

If he is married, it most inappropriate!!!

I would suggest you not encourage him not think it is a compliment because more than likely, you are just one of many that he has flirted with. Its very wrong for him to even think about flirting and wrong if your encouraging him.  

Answer 5

NO....(rolling eyes) The way you know a guy wants an affair is that he will probably ask. Looking at you longly and talking quietly may mean he is just intense.

He is not having or trying to have an affair with you. Stop reading too much stuff into this....

Answer 6

In his mind, he is s******g the pants off of her, or is wondering what it would really be like if it happened. Day dreaming I guess you could call it. Is it inappropriate? I don't think so as long as all he does is think about it.

Answer 7

Sounds more like he's enchanted by her and more than likely fantasizing as well. But, as long as it all stays in his head nobody gets hurt.

Answer 8

TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE!

If you are the wife, I'd approach the woman.

Usually when the woman is approached and made aware of the situation or the behavior, She will be on your side,  

Answer 9

NO, he doesn't have a crush on you. He's trying to find out how quickly he can get your **** into bed. Don't be fooled by all his so called attention honey that boy has a plan. That plan involves you and him doing the vertical lambada. And didn't you say he's married and the woman is married. What rock did these two craw out from under, and why this so called married woman can't recognize game. BABY DON'T GET USED UP AND THOWN AWAY.