Does he want an affair?

Question

If a married man does the following:

Stares at a woman every time she walks by or is standing across the room

Stares at her and flirts in front of his own wife and the woman’s husband

Talks to the woman with a huge smile and eyes glued to hers

Acts nervous around the woman or if they run into each other unexpectedly

Checks out the woman’s body and lets her see it – jokes with her and says he loves to “tease” her

Watches the woman’s every move even if they’re both talking to different groups in the same room, and holds her gaze whenever he can

Always touches her arm or shoulders while talking/has pressed his body against hers when there was plenty of room, touched his hand and arm to hers and left it there, without moving it (when he’s not touchy with anyone else)

Always starts conversations to see “how she’s doing”

Complains about the wife’s behavior to the woman

Compliments the woman on her character – she is so sweet, innocent, nice, together, calm, collected

Compliments the woman’s work performance more than anyone else’s; always gives her requests immediate attention, even when really busy (what she asks for always comes first)

Is extra careful to explain his absence from one of her get-togethers and apologizes profusely (when no one else in his - much higher - position bothered to do so)

Always tells her about his fatherly duties and tries to show her what a good father he is, but always expresses disappointment in his wife

If you saw your own husband behaving this way, would you say that he was looking for an affair or had feelings for the woman?

Answer 1

certainly sounds like it to me

Answer 2

I wouldn't make that conclusion right away. One of the things that holds a marriage together is trust and fidelity. Talking to another woman that might show signs of infidelity can also be seen as talking to someone other than a wife. I say the only thing to be worried about is discovering the other woman's intentions being to trick your husband or tempting him to have an affair. Some make the mistake that a man is the only capable of cheating. A woman can have those intentions. A woman can have the intention of being with another man. In this case, the woman talking to your husband. Just warn your husband about it, so he can avoid the other woman if it seems like she's tempting him. A man can easily be seduced if he's blinded by what the woman tells him. A.K.A. Adam and Eve. I can go on on... Good luck

Answer 3

How many accounts do you have and how many times are you going to ask this same question?

OK - He's already having an affair with her and will leave his wife if he can only get her to give up all his money....meaning he'll never leave his wife for the affair but he'll also never give up the affair either. That is what you're thinking, isn't it? Stop being paranoid, whichever side you're on, and just confront him & find out what's up. Repeatedly asking this question solves nothing. Obsessing over this without answers will just make you ill! WE have no real answers for you here!

Answer 4

yea sounds like he is having a affair and he wants to leave his wife ever so badly for this lady but he is waiting for her to accept him on that level and is really trying to prove himself to her and his wife should let him go  and move on to at least keep her dignity i mean you can't keep someone who don't want to be kept

Answer 5

If you are the woman, RUN.

You absolutely do not want to get involved with a married man.

If you are the wife, better keep a tight leash on him, he has a "crush" and may well act on it. Men are very stupid about denying their base urges and preserving what they have.

Answer 6

yes he does. Yikes.

Answer 7

Sounds like he finds her attractive...BUT it doesn't necessarily mean he's looking for an affair.  Sounds like he's flirting, too much flirting in my opinion.  

Answer 8

Duh !  Yes !

Why not talk to her husband about it and see if he feels the same way you do !  Maybe its time both of you confronted your spouses about their feelings and get it out in the open.

Then you can move on !  Because its just a matter of time before they have an affair or are already having one.

This is how it starts !!!

Answer 9

Uh HELLO....want an affair? This guy has already had an affair. Holy red flags.

Answer 10

Look, if he is being that way and none of this is exaggerated and is making no effort to hide his behavior from his wife... He's done, ready to move on, doesnt care what you think and has probably been that way for a while. Thats only if he hasn't already.