Does is bother you when you can see that someone is fake and others can't?

Question

I don't know why it bothers me so much when I see that someone is fake and other's don't see it. My brother and parents will talk about others behind their backs but no one else seems to pick up on it. It has been my experience that if someone talks badly about others that you can bet they talk about you behind your back as well. I don't know if I'm just too observant or what but I have caught them in lies, hypocrisy...I have observed narcissistic behavior not to mention facial expressions that give away their true thoughts. But my brother has a large circle of friends that all seem to think he is great (he isn't!) . It has been expressed to me on several occasions. My brother and my dad has made petty, catty remarks about people behind their backs but family members think their wonderfully nice. I can't believe that nobody hasn't caught them doing and saying things about others. This is true of others as well. Does this bother others or it just me?

Answer 1

It is human nature. There are very few circles where someone isn't talking behind someones back. Yes, it's hypocritical, but the only person you have control of is you. Try not to judge others so harshly. Sensitivity training may help them, but from the sounds of it you could use a few classes too.

Answer 2

i know how u feel!!! but if you try to tell people truth they'll just think you're jealous so just let the people figure it by themselves everything will be revealed in good time :P

Answer 3

Oh God I know exactly what you mean. I have a sister in law who is a wretch & everyone else thinks she's the cat's a**. And I don't say anything because then I look like a jerk talking about her. Also, my neighbors talk terrible about our other neighbors then go hang out with them all the time. I guarantee they talk c**p about us to them. I just have to ignore this kind of ridiculousness or I go crazy with irritation.

Answer 4

yea my friends wife was trying everything to talk to me and call me and see me and put her man down and i had to call her out on it and she was totally ignoring my wife. she got mad at me and her hubby didnt want to believe it at all!

i have known her hubby for 13 years ! and her for 3 months! i just got back home from the navy.

i have been married 2wice as long as them and i have 2 kids still all these factors had no effect on my friend he knew his wife was doing it and he knew i wouldt touch her and he thought it was funny. he would not stand up for what was right because the house is in his wifes name and he dont want to lose that he is a loser he was living at home with mommy and daddy at 25 and got kicked out of a christian house at 26! how do you get kicked out of a christian house! they forgive oyu every time!

it is easyier for people to believe the dark than the light.

MEN LOVED DARKNESS RATHER THAN LIGHT.

for everyone that doeth evil hateth the light, neither come to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved!

remember I am the way the truth and the light? i think thats how it goes?

Answer 5

  just secretly tape record them one day and then play it at a family gathering.

  well, no, that would be more trouble than its worth...

but yes, i see your point, and yes, it annoys me, but it is human nature unfortunatly, and i firmly believe that everyone who is like that will get bitten in the *** by it one day

Answer 6

It bothers me too. I can't stand fake people and ive been in situations where i was the only person who picked up on it and i tried to tell a group of friends that the person was fake. Then eventually they found out.

Answer 7

omg that annoys me sooo muchh!

Answer 8

I know EXACTLY how you feel! I had a former roommate who was a compulsive liar and a drama queen, yet she had almost a cult following! It makes you sick.

Answer 9

yeah, this is one of my big pet peeves