Does it REALLY feel more special if you save it for marriage?

Question

is there a deeper connection you think between you and your spouse if you wait till marriage than lets say a couple that didnt?

Answer 1

I don't think so. Virginity today is outdated and overrated. I don't think it's such a wonderful thing to be praised or talked about for the rest of your life. In other cultures it might be a big thing. Not in the US.

Answer 2

For me it was. And 13 married years later, it still is. :) It's all up to the person.  

Answer 3

the answer is so obvious that you have to ask that question?

the answer is yes.

if you save yourself and you've never had s*x, ofcourse it's going to be awesome.

assuming he doesn't mess it up and goes APE **** on you. hahaha

usually if you take it slow

long

and be thorough

it's gonna be good.

Answer 4

It most certainly is more special if you wait until you are married to have s*x! God intended for s*x to be a way for a husband and wife to "ultimately" enjoy one another. There is something sooo precious between a couple who waits and does things His way!              

Answer 5

i wouldn't know...didn't wait and i'm not married yet.  i am imagine there would obviously be some bond but i think both parties are taking a risk in waiting.  what if you have no chemistry in bed?  

Answer 6

It would only be bad if the two are not sexually compatible.  

Answer 7

I don't know lol

I did wait for marriage..I married my first and only and then he left me after 4yrs of marriage and pregnant with first baby and it almost KILLED me because I had that 1st love, 1st time..only love of my life BS and I fell into a DEEP DEPRESSION...

Answer 8

I think so. that way there is nothing to compare it to and it's genuine.

Answer 9

To be honest, it really is a personally choice or belief that you have to answer for yourself. Virginity is a special gift for some people, and others don't think as highly. My husband and I weren't virgins when we met each other, but that didn't mean we never had a deep connection with one another when we decided to make love. s*x is technically meant to be special with anyone you decide to share yourself with whether you decide to wait until your married or not.

Answer 10

I have had s*x with one man and that is my hubby. I am glad I waited for him. My sisters both did not wait and both have told me they wish they had. I don't think it is the s*x that is more special. It is the relationship. You grow together in that area, true, but it also brings you closer throughout the relationship. I think it is a great idea.

Answer 11

I think it makes the marriage night very awkward.

Answer 12

I think in theory it would be special but in reality it could be a nightmare. I was once with a guy who was soooo selfish in bed that I ended up breaking off the relationship. If I had waited until marriage (if it had even gotten to that point) I would have been devastated. Just thinking about it gives me shivers.

Answer 13

it depends on the couple. what their connection is like. there are couples that that may have a deeper connection having s*x before than after marriage. i know i have the deepest connection ever with my bride to be(next week). s*x is the bonus. Our communication is like none in the universe!

Answer 14

If you are capable of waiting until marriage, your s*x drive is too low to keep a man satisfied. Do the men a favor and don't get married.Saving yourself until marriage will get you what? Nothing!

Answer 15

In your mind and heart wouldn't you feel closer if he hadn't slept with several women or vise versa.   It's a special 'gift' the two of you can give to eachother.  

Answer 16

OK, so there are two kinds of couples.  Those that wait until marriage, and those that don't.  But none of them can compare what it's like for the other kind.

In my opinion, s*x isn't something you build a relationship on.

Answer 17

Yes, there is a deeper connection. But there could also could be allot incompatibility in the bed room. Also think this day and age, if you meet Mr or Mrs Right, did they save himself also?