Does it annoy you when people either don't call when they're on the way to your house or stop by w/o calling?

Question

For some reason that has always bothered me. Just the other day, a new friend said he was coming to the house at 1 p.m. so we could shoot some hoops.

So my wife made lunch and at Noon I was about to sit down and eat with her and the girls when DING DONG! The bell rings and my buddy is standing at the door.

I was annoyed but invited him in and asked if he wanted lunch. He goes, "Oh no, I already ate. You go ahead though". Then he was just kind of standing around.

So I ended up taking my lunch to go. That really pissed me off. If he was going to be early, he could have at least called

Answer 1

yes it annoys me tremendiously that people think that it is the thing to do. First of all you are at home and may plan on a quiet day or evening with family, or you could have planned a small dinner party which did not include the person crashing your house...so please call before you just stop by.

Answer 2

go to sleep

Answer 3

I hate when people stop by unannounced.  Either my house is a mess, we are having dinner, or in some cases I am just not in the mood to socialize.  How do you deal with this.  It has become such a problem that I would rather write off the person that continues to do this so I don't have to deal with it anymore.  Any suggestions....

Answer 4

i've had that happen to me so many times. sometimes i pretend i'm not home, other times i answer the phone. but it's annoying because it happens with the SAME person. and she would come just to show me some pictures or tell me stories about her boyfriend. i mean she has to come everytime something major happened in her relationship. i love her to death, she's my friend, but honestly i have relationship problems of my own. and sometimes i would hang out with my boyfriend in the house and then she would come unexpectedly and asks us if she can hang out with us. and of course i would be annoyed but wont show it. my boyfriend has always been annoyed by her but we always try to be polite whenever she's around. another thing happened last weekend. i was still sleeping, i think it was about seven in the morning and she came knocking on my door. and i was too sleepy to answer the door so i just stayed in my bed and waited till she was done knocking. then after TWENTY MINUTES of pounding, i heard rocks being thrown on my window. i was so annoyed, normally i would answer if it gotten that worst but i knew the only reason she was coming in is because she wanted to tell me something about her BOYFRIEND. i mean, if she would've called to tell me she was coming then i would've been okay with it. but SEVEN in the morning on a saturday? and that's not the worst of it. i was falling back asleep because i thought she already left but then i heard her yelling my name out. i was so annoyed. she honestly does this EVERY SINGLE DAY! or every other day at least. when something exciting that happens in her life, she has to come and see me. i mean i get excited for her, i even call her up every once and a while just to check up on her and her boyfriend or with whatever that's going on with her life. but sometimes i need my privacy. i have my OWN life to deal with. i've always been there for her, but i guess when her boyfriend broke up with her i was there to help her move on. and now that she's finally moved on, she can't seem to keep her distance from me. how do i solve this? i know that talking to her about it would somehow help, but i dont want to ruin our friendship. as much as i hate it when she bothers me, i still want her in my life. it's just there's got to be limitations.