Does it annoy you when people say your child is spoilt when?

Question

they arent? I mean, my partner and i have a little boy, almost 1, and yeah, i admit that he does have heaps of toys, but hes my son and if i want to buy him something, i will! it has nothing to do with anyone else. He is well behaved, he is diciplined (as much as you can to a 1 year old) and wont be growing up to be a disrespectful little brat. so why do people accuse him of being spoilt?

Answer 1

I'm not a parent, but I'm an only child. I grew up getting everything I wanted when I was a kid. Then, I grew up and reality struck lol My hubby always calls me a spoiled brat because I - I'll admit it - have little hissy fits when I can't get what I want! haha

So anyway, I'm just saying, I think it's important for kids NOT to get everything they want. Gawd look around at all the 6 year olds with cell phones nowadays! Talk about spoiling lol

Answer 2

When I had my first baby, someone gave me this advice regarding "spoiling" your kids:  When food spoils, it is because it has been left too long without being eaten.  When a child "spoils", it is because his parents left him too long without giving him the proper attention.  It is therefore impossible to "spoil" a child by lavishing attention, praise, treats, or toys on him.  Like you said, he is well-behaved.  He doesn't need to act up to get your attention because you already give it to him.  Take a look around you at the park or the mall.  The worst behaved little kids are the ones whose parents neglect them, IMO.  BTW, who on Earth would be giving all these thumbs down?  Give me a break.

Answer 3

Because their jealous that you have a wonderful son.

Answer 4

I don't actually think the quantity of what you have determines whether you're spoiled.  To me, spoiled kids are the ones who feel a sense of entitlement to have their whims obeyed, whether it be buying the toy they take a passing fancy to, or having mom clean up their mess because they don't feel like it, or expecting everyone else to stop what they're doing and play monopoly that second because that's what they suddenly decide they want to do.  There are kids who have a ton of toys who are not spoiled, and there are kids who don't who are.

That said, if I felt there was any way to contain my mother-in-law, who brings the kids ridiculous amounts of toys despite our pleas not to, I'd far prefer to have fewer toys in my house.  Some amount of toys is great for providing stimulation; some amount more than that makes it really hard for kids to appreciate what they have, and ultimately I think is less stimulating than having a smaller number of things.

Answer 5

I am a mother of 4 and if there is one thing i know about parenting it is that everyone has a opinion on how you should do it, wether or not they are even parents.  I have lots of friends with kids and it would seem that everyone goes a little over board with the first one.  If you do continue to lavish him with toy's however he will grow expecting to have what ever he wants, but hey have fun while you can he is only 1yr and things get alot more expensive the older they get.

Answer 6

Cause spoilt children are hard to change once they grow up, it's preventable while they're a baby.  But no one should butt into someone else's kids' upbringing.

He sounds like a nice kid but when he grows up and he asks for more expensive grown up toys and doesn't get them, what will his reaction be when someone says no to him for the first time?

Answer 7

Don't listen to them.... Yes he may be spoilt but he is spoilt because you love him and want him to have the best and not because he threw a tantrum at the shop and to appease him you got him a toy... every parent wants their children to have what they didn't..... I spoil my son and am proud of it. I can afford it and like your son he isn't a brat. My son is 9 and very well behaved, respectful, intelligent and a lovely boy.  

To those people I say... get over it... you do what you think is right for your child and let others do what they think is right.

Spoiling a child is a very minor evil in this day and age.

Answer 8

People are too narrow minded.. I dress my daughter up.. in very nice clothes.. beautiful shoes.. have her hair done and don't like her rolling on shopping centre floors, medical centre floors, touching anything in the hospital because i don't like the germs there..yeah my own floors fine.. i know when they're clean..My daughter chucks tantrums in the shopping centre.. and because of how dressed up she is i get filthy looks like control your daughter.. she's too spoilt.. or i would disapline her this way< WHo are people to judge... And yeah she has alot of toys.. However they're necessary.. i would prefer she has climbing sets, swings, slides, jumping castle.. so she's getting outside play time. My daughters manners however.. she's a very respectful girl.. Example. Today i vacuumed and she said",mummy you vacuum? Mummy? I said Yes.. She said "thankyou mummy"

another thing i dont give my child what she wants... she gets what is appropriate and needs to earn things. and when its not needed its donated to someone less fortunate