Does it disturb you that most women choose to not be FT in their job or just stop working ?

Question

And just leave money issue/stress to the guys w/ out fiancial back up? Does it disturb you that most women who graduate from college and get good jobs drop out or go part time in their jobs b4 they turn 30 mostly because they had a kid or want to spend more time with the kid, being a stay at home mom etc. Not all do this but most do. Can this end this stupid WAGE GAPE DISCRIMETED MYTH PLEASE!!! Researched at Census Bureau by the way. What do yall think? PS: If u answered this question already ignore this if u want, just looking for more answer.

Answer 1

That doesn't bother me because being a parent should not be held against anyone.  I don't know where you live, but in New York,   many women prefer working FULL TIME and they are self-supportive and/or support their partners.  These same women go home after work to do housework, prepare meals, run errands and buy groceries.  Some have kids, too and some don't.   Are you disturbed knowing there's many lazy, usless guys who let women support them?   There's tons of guys who are who aren't man enough to work or even offer contributions of child support for the children they helped to create.  Those kinds of guys are just  deadbeats and slackers, out for themselves.   The wage gap discrimination  DOES exist in many jobs - just so you know.  It is not a "myth," and if the census bureau said that, they are mistaken  so please get your facts right.

Answer 2

The idea of motherhood, and finding ones identity in that, has been around alot longer than the 40 hr. work week. On top of that, in most cases, the woman assumes primary care functions for the child, even if there are two parents in the household, which makes it doubly hard for the woman to hold down a 9 to 5 job, come home and take care of the kids.

Furthermore, if a male assumes custody of the children and doesn't do a bang-up job of raising them, people are upset but they aren't surprised by it. If a woman fails to take care of and nurture her children perfectly (regardless of how difficult it is to actually do that) many people think less of her. A woman, thus, is forced to be a super-mom or a super worker but she can't be both, and when push comes to shove, it would not be surprising that the biological and social imperative for women to concentrate on child rearing wins out over making a good living.

Some women also leave the financial issue with the guy because its also true that a guy will often make more money than a woman in a similar position. If you are going to cut out a paycheck, then it will seem reasonable to cut out the 'smaller' one, eventhough such decisions will often leave a woman in a vulnerable and precarious position should something ever happen to the guy (cheats, leaves, or simply has the bad luck of dying too soon) and she has to start making the financial decisions now.

The pressures on a woman to be super-qualified in so many areas, whether by choice or social coercion, make it amazing that so many are capable of rising up to meet such a challenge. Of course, the longer this society survives, the less stress and stigma there will be on a woman who works and finds time to accomodate her kid or the amount of implied responsibility placed on men even though they work (change the attitude that caring for their newborns isn't a suggestion for men and you'll see nurseries in ALL the Fortune 500 companies) will cause an equilibrium to occur. The future will look back on this generation and think 'boy, how backwards and primitive they all were. There weren't even nursuries at the office, shudder shudder.'

Answer 3

You having a bad OCD day?

As I said earlier, a having a college degree is nothing special anymore.  Having an undergrad degree is like having a high school diploma used to be.  Big deal.  Having one doesn't necessarily mean you can apply it directly to a career; an undergrad arts or science degree isn't enough to do anything with.

Answer 4

Why would it disturb you that a woman would actually want to spend time with her child instead of working? I think it's great that women are starting to realize that the careers that someone promised would fulfil them and make their lives complete, aren't as good as being with their kidlets. As for going all the way and quitting to become a SAHM, I think that's fabulous!  

Answer 5

It doesn't disturb me at all.  I think children should be raised by their parents, not daycare workers.

Answer 6

Nope. I am one of those women, so it doesn't annoy me at all. :) I chose to work part-time. After 18 years of sitting behind a desk full time, I'm ready to call it quits. Oh, I am 41. I feel that I've earned the right to work Just part time. I'm ready to retire.  

Answer 7

That's not true. According to the stats I've seen, most women either work full-time or want to. And those who do work part-time or drop out usually do so for reasons besides wanting to be home with their kids.

Answer 8

This whole "mommy wars" thing is getting ridiculous. Can't we just say that some women prefer to stay at home, while others prefer to work even when they have children?

My fiancee has a well-paying job with great benefits and job security. I have a semi-decent paying job for a corporation, which means I don't have a whole lot of job security (company could go out of business or get bought out). He enjoys his job; I could do without mine. I hope that I would be able to stay at home when we have kids. You should consider how much it costs to pay for day care, and that kids can benefit from being raised by a parent.

I don't know how you interpreted those statistics. In my department at work, many women have kids, and only one has left work for her kid.

I agree with you that being a mother partially explains the wage gap. However, there is an effect on women who aren't mothers also. I have heard of women who are "child-free," but are passed up for promotions because of the assumption that they will have kids eventually. Also, in general we don't shame fathers who miss out on their kids' activities the same way we shame the mothers. And fathers aren't as inclined to put family ahead of job duties.

Answer 9

Most women i know work full time, then go home and work more, you cannot say most women because its not true

Answer 10

I see more women supporting men these days.  Some of them work 2 jobs while  the guys sit around refusing to work because the jobs available wont pay enough.  I don't get it because even $10 per hour is more than $0 per hour

Answer 11

I've been saying that for a long time. You'll never end the debate because new people come here every day/

But ya, the decade between one's 25th and 35 birthday is generally acknowledged to be the one of greatest career growth... which sucks if you're trying to scrape gum off a hobby horse and watching Finding Nemo for the 873rd time this week while your kids find ways to undermine your attempts to get your security deposit back when you move to a new apartment.

I was a SAHM for awhile and it took a real effort not to put my head through a wall.  

Answer 12

No, it doesn't disturb me at all, it seems very sensible.  If you have chldren it makes sense to devote more time to them and less time to paid employment, which is overrated in any case.

Answer 13

Why do you care about what someone else does? If it doesn't affect you personally, you shouldn't give a d@m. I think you spend too much time worrying about the wrong stuff. And I still think you’re a dude posing as a woman to get attention.