Does it hurt having s*x after having a baby?

Question

i have birth 9 weeks ago and im still really sore, i had about 30 stitches down there and it seems like she stitched me up way too tight,my partner is getting really patient but im really worried it will hurt, i went to the gp but she told me to just get on with it and get it out of the way.

Answer 1

I aint gonna lie I was scared,but it wasnt near as bad as I though,just sore.

Answer 2

must have been a big un.   a potato sack only takes 5 stitches      just jokin. pain can be pleasure go for it.

Answer 3

I think everyone is scared the first time after having a baby because you dont knovv hovv it vvill feel, the only vvay to knovv is to just do it, if it hurts then you can alvvays stop. I had s*x 3 vvks after I had my baby and I vvas fine, but I didnt have alot of stitches either.

Answer 4

i had s*x again 14 weeks after i had my son.. i had episiotomy and a minor tear with about 5 stitches down there.. at 9 weeks i would say it will still hurt... way to judge is to put one or two fingers in.. or ask ur partner to, if that hurts then s*x will definitely hurt more!  

Answer 5

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but you just have to relax.....some women have s*x right away(how, I do not know)...but you should be healed by now so do your thang!

Answer 6

I had a few stitches after having my daughter but they were cut out while i was still in hospital - 4 days later- and I had s*x about 7 days after that and i was fine. Use lubricant...i think that maybe the more you worry about it the longer it will take.

Answer 7

It hurts like h**l. I had stitches internally and externally, and like you, they stitched it too tight. They used a hook to cut them after a week, when the discovered that they weren't the dissolving kind! I didn't have s*x for 11 months after that, and even then it hurt like h**l! I did discover that it was psychological, and when I truly was emotionally ready, it stopped hurting.

Answer 8

Congrats on your baby!

9 weeks isn't all that long, I agree - if YOU want to then have a gentle try -Oh and maybe consider switching GP they sound horribly unsympathetic..just get on with it - shonk off!!!

Health visitor might be better, and also there is achance your stitches might not be healing or are infected if still sore - one of mine got infected and it's never been quite right in this one tiny patch and am sure it's because I left it too long and my GP was useless!!

Don't worry though, you know yourself and partner and he can check if looks red or inflamed at same time!!

Answer 9

I'd get your stiches checked out to make sure theres no infection.  IF all is ok and you want to try s*x make sure you take it very slowly and use a lubricant, it does hurt a bit the first time but it eases off.

Answer 10

yeh it hurt me for about a month maybe longer it was so painfull, it does get better i promise its just because you are still sore down there, u think of how much has happened to your body it need time to heal. good luck x

Answer 11

i was scared aswell but just did it an hey dont moan that youve been stiched to tight most woman would love that lol, it hurt a bit but we just took it easy  i bleed a bit an did swell a bit but i kept stiches clean an it was fine youl be ok love dont worry, goodluck an congratulations to you an your partner, p.s maybe have a drink that would block the pain an worry lol

Answer 12

use ky,,u will be fine

Answer 13

With my first child, I had a lot of stitches, but I managed to get back to normal sexually after about 2 or 3 weeks.  Maybe that was a bit soon, but I felt fine.  

I suppose it all depends on the individual.

Have a chat with your Health Visitor or GP for reassurance.

Good luck!

*SL

Answer 14

Don't be scared to try it. Just make sure you're in the mood, nice and moist and start slow, let him know to go slow and if you feel like it bothers or hurts, just stop and try it again some other time and so on until it's back to normal. It should not hurt unless your body is not ready. For some women it actually feels better after baby.

Answer 15

Ok honey I know how you feel.

I had a third degree tear after I had my daughter and had to have over 100 stitches. I was very sore and tender down there for quite a while but when my daughter was 5 weeks old I decided to have s*x with my partner.

I was very tender, but it did not really hurt. You just have to get your partner to go really gentle and if you want him to stop he has to respect your wishes.

I was sore afterwards, but not unbearably so.

Do it when it feels right for you. Do not feel preassurised into doing anything you don't want to do yet

Answer 16

I was still sore after waiting 6 weeks, but the tenderness was gone completely by about 12 weeks.

Answer 17

the first time was sore but after it was fine