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Does it matter if your friends do not like your girlfriend?

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Be hypothetical. Supposing you found the girl of you dreams and she likes you too. But your friends don't like her because she is - they say she is "weird" and a "freak" - despite being a nice person and showing good morals - however, she isn't "upper class" enough. If these friends are part of your life how much do you listen to them and how much do you stick up for your girl? I know that is isn't a computer question but I just want a regular blokes answer.

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i would say a lot of times it does, but not in this case. they don't have any specific bad things to say. and they sound jealous.
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My friends would get an *** stomping if I ever let her out of my bed long enough for them to dislike.
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SOMETIMES LOVE IS BLIND TO THINGS OTHERS CAN EASILY SEE,IF ITS ASNOBBY THING THEN I WOULD SAY YOU HAVEWIERD FRIENDS.ASK THEM TO DESCRIBE WEIRD AND FREAKY. AND IF ITS YOUR FRIENDS, THEY WOULD ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU LIKE HER. I WOULD SAY GO WITH YOUR HEART BUT MAKE YOUR FRIENDS GIVE YOU A BETTER ANSWER THAN WIERD AND FREAKY AS TO WHY THEY DONT LIKE HER..FORGIVE THE CAPS.MY EYES HURT.
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nope don't matter make it easier yes but do what you want they cannot make your decisions for you
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Well if you really like her, it shouldn't matter what your friends think.
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If you like the girl, who cares what anybody else thinks..even if they're your friends. if they really are your friends..they'll grow to accept her and hopefully like her too! :)
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If she's hot and good in the sack, why would you care?
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tell them to **** off
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I'd keep the girl of my dreams, ditch the shallow friends and find friends of my dreams. (If I was a guy)
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If what they are complaining about is irrational tell them to respect your decision if they make sense maybe you should listen. Friends can pull you out of some serious mistakes in life sometimes they know what they are talking about.
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To me ur friends seem shallow talk to them and explain how u feel about her and if they rnt supportive then u need some new friends.
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No, it don't matter. Tell them that shes your girl and you don't want to hear anything bad about her, end of story.
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Upper class enough?...How s****. why would you listen to them? If she is the girl of your dreams to h**l with what they think.
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Well I kind of understand where you are coming from.

I live in a "rich" community. There is a lot of pressure to drive the best car, wear the best clothes, live in the nicest house, etc. I am a junior in high school and clear back to elementary school I remember the social and financial standards.

If you found the girl of your dreams, you have to go with your instinct. I have a lot of guy friends, and when they truly like a girl, I tell them not to give up on her. Usually when a girl seems "different" she is a keeper. If they think she is weird, then they probably don't know her like you do... and their opinion isn't even legit. If they are just pre-judging her, then you shouldn't worry about it. Sometimes guys even get jealous. If you are happy with her and she treats you really well, then they probably wish they could find a girl like that.

When it comes to standing up for your girl, it shouldn't be very difficult. Obviously there is something there that makes you feel a certain way about her. If your friends challenge that, tell them that you care about her. Usually they'll listen and back off. Its not like they're going to be like "No, you can't care about her" or something like that. I am guessing they would understand. If they are your best friends, then they should support you. I know how the upper class standards are... but its one of those things you have to kind of think about and realize if it really bothers you or not. If it doesn't bother you and don't think it will bother you in the long run, then your friends can get over their little hang-up.

The best thing I would recommend doing is allowing your friends to spend time with you and your girlfriend. If its bad, take a look at the whole situation. who is REALLY causing it. Sometimes it just takes a little observation to see what is really going on. I am sure things will fall into place. They always do.

Bottom line: If you care about your girl, stay with her and stand up for her. If your friends stop being your friend because of her, they weren't really your friends in the first place.

Good luck.
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of course it doesnt matter.

then theyre not your real friends anyway....lets say you werent "high class" would they be your friends?

unless she's a golddigger and theyre trying to protect you?

but no if shes a great person and they r focusing on her economic status then they suck.

i would stick up for what i believe in and if i think that money isnt everything thenim gonna go at it with my "friends"
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Well it sounds like your hypothetical friends are shallow. If they would talk about your girl and they know that you are really into her, then they are clearly not good friends. This becomes a question of right and wrong. Is it right to ditch someone you really like because your friends don't approve of her monetary status? It's not. You should definitely stick up for your girl.
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First of all, try and clear up any misconceptions your friends may have about her. Ask them why they think she's so weird, assuming you haven't already. Personally I don't care what my friends think of my girl; their problem, not mine. However, if they badmouth her in front of me or just do NOT drop it, then it's a good time to stand up and say something.
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At first it seems like you should ignore them, but after the newness of the relationship wears off, you'll start to notice things.

In college, I dated a guy from a lower income family and eventually started noticing his cheap shoes, his clothes from JC Penney, and the fact that he hardly had money for anything.  Trust me, one day you'll realize your friends are right.
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If you love this girl then who cares if your friends dont like her. You should say something like, "Hey, thats my girlfriend and you cant treat her that way!" Shes your girlfriend, their your friends. If you want to stay with her, then forget what they say and turn to the one person who truelly matter- your girlfriend!
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Peer pressure is so difficult.  It makes you question your decisions, your likes and dislikes and sometimes it can ruin a really great relationship for yourself.  Peers can also be jealous of you and the fact you have a girlfriend.  They can also be out right mean.

It's always great to have your friends like your girlfriend.  Tends to make you feel confident you've chosen the "right" person.

Just remember, they don't spend time with the girl.  YOU DO!  Be yourself, decide for yourself and try not to let your friends influence your choices when it comes to girlfriends.

If she's not really the "right one" you'll find out for yourself soon enough.  She might be a "diamond in the rough" and you are the one to smooth those rough edges.

GOOD LUCK!
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