Does marriage feel different than being in a long relationship?

Question

I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years and I'm 25 years old. I want us to get serious about getting married in the next year or so but she thinks that since we've been together a long time, it will just feel like we only moved in together and nothing changed really. Do you think she is right?

She WANTS to get married soon but just isn't as excited about it as I am.

Your opinions, please?

Answer 1

you feel better to have a ring on ur finger u no trust me i didnt want a wedding but not i will never regret having 1 !

Answer 2

Marriage sucks!  your getting the milk for free, why make it worse.

If you doubt me, ask any old married man.

Answer 3

Marriage feels a whole lot different than just being in a long relationship because it's a big step forward to commitment. You cant change your g/f's views though, but then she might just feel it herself on the day of the wedding because she must not have pictured it all out yet.

Answer 4

Its true. The only difference will be what ever knew things you learn about each other by living together. My husband and I lived together before we got married and nothing changed it was exactly the same as not being married we just have a joint account now.

Answer 5

I would say not really but its also dependent on how you treat your

relationship. Some people get married then stop working on keeping each other happy and stop communicating.



  My husband and I started going out in 1998 and married in 2001 when we were 19. We are still married and happy together and are expecting our 2nd child. We're not perfect but we try =).

It feels maybe a little more permanent, we had a ceremony before God and family saying we were together.

  

Answer 6

WOW! 9 years thats incredible. Congrats on that!! Now I can understand that she is not as excited as you just because you've been together for so long and legally you are almost married. I feel if you are both comfortable don't rush it and everything will fall into its place. Obviously neither one of you are going anywhere anytime soon so don't stress over it and enjoy your relationship.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

i feel more commited and proud when i can refer to him as my husband.  

Answer 8

Hmmm...

h**l yeah it feels different and looks different. For starters,  the in-laws (?!) and the legalese (the papers so on, ad nauseum)

If you really love your woman...just go with what she is feeling about your relationship right now...don't push her that much about marriage...It might cool down the 'fires of love'.  

Answer 9

She may be excited but is just playing it down. Some women are very wary about showing how keen they are about marriage because they are scared that their partners will freak out too much...you should probably just talk to her about it

Answer 10

till the love is there nothing is going to be worse. so care for it and do what ever pleases both of you.

Answer 11

Once she takes the first step into entering that marriage stage, she will love it.  If you have not done so already, show up with an engagement ring and ask her properly.  She will have a new outlook and be excited.  That is because she knows then that you really and truely do want to marry her.  Good luck!

Answer 12

I lived with my partner for 10 years before we got married, and nothing changed. It didnt get better, it didnt get worse. Its just a piece of paper, in the end.

BUT! we got some great wedding presents lolol :P