Does my ex wants me back??

Question

last nite my soon to be exhusband called me 18 times. he left 2 voicemails askin about our daughter n says he wants to pick her up. he started callin at like 12 am didnt stop to about 4 am when i picked up. we live in 2 seperate cities same state. im like hows that possible if u supposedly just started a new job. how r u going to find the time to keep her for a few weeks or a month. this comes after he said he would file 4 divorce n pay 4 it bc i wont do either n not to contact me until papers are ready. hes been singing the same song and has not contacted a divorce lawyer yet. he wants me to give him a number for the lawyer..n everytime i tried to bring it up in teh convo he would cut it off. ..lol..i kno..at the end of the convo he said he had to go bc his gf of 2 months is coming home but i doubt the whole story of them living together bc he cant even afford to keep his cell phone on or pay child support/ he called me from his half brothers cell phone so im guessing hes living wit him. thats where he got served 4 child support just 2 weeks ago. hes such a liar. n told me that he really doesnt want the divorce but its something that needs to be done. whats up with behavior. y is he actin so weird all of a sudden

Answer 1

sounds like the reality is now hitting him and hes probably panicking about the change and its becoming real to him and he's not ready for it.i suppose its a big adjustment for him and he's probably scared of losing that comfort and familiarity he once had and hes probably wondering if he has made a mistake in losing you and i expect he is scare of not seeing his child and losing touch with her.

just talk with him and see where he stands ,but tell him you want him to be honest.

Answer 2

Maybe hes drunk, sounds like it.

If hes calling 18 times till 4am THAT sounds like a drunk to me.

Answer 3

Firstly do not take him back!!!!!

it sounds to me like he might want you back but for the wrong reasons. to me its like he's left to get with some girl but then hes ended up loosing a decent home, children and a good life. he's realised the grass isn't greener on the other side and now he wants you back so that his life will be easy again. don't fall for it!

either that or he might want to try for custody. he could be putting in time with the children and getting a new job before he starts proceedings so that when he does call a lawyer hes got a record of the children staying with him and him having a steady job.

you need to start a diary now including times and dates of every conversation you have so you can't be made out to be a liar. you also need to include anything you find out about him through word of mouth and the people you've got the info from.

keep your back covered, he might be up to something.

Answer 4

honestly, i don't think he wants you back.....to him, it's all about his daughter....don't get things twisted....(i think)

Answer 5

I think he can tell you know he is a looser so he trying to made up a story in his head so he can survive, more like he is in a fantasy world so he won't feel the pain he can't afford a cell or a new girlfriend.

Just feel sorry for him, I hope it all works out for you, and try to get a better man in your life on your second time around.

Answer 6

I don't think he wants you back, but I think this guy has figured out how much he misses his daughter.

It sounds like he is extremely depressed about everything that has happened.  I know that separation can be initially difficult, but he will get through it.  If he can't, perhaps he should seek counseling.

Maybe you can let him talk to his daughter more often and let him know that, regardless of how things ended with you and him, he will always be her dad.

Then again, I could be wrong.  I don't know this guy!

Good Luck anyway!

Answer 7

And you are talking to this loser, why? Tell him to call your attorney and get that divorce.  

Answer 8

I think he does miss you and want to be with you, but his ego and pridie is too big to admit it.  For you....do this, IF and only IF you want to be with him, call him out...say look do you want to get back together and be a family or what...if so, GET YO SH*T TOGETHER and then we can talk..  If not, I WILL FILE FOR DIVORCE.   Why give him that much control over your life, why wait in limbo for him to decide.  You have a child to raise and a life of endless opportunities.  You are getting child support, and you live in a different city.  First step to letting go.  He called you AFTER 9, unacceptable, what if YOU had a man.....you would have to set some boundries.  Then 14 times.......he still think he is running things over there......heck no.  Man...manipulator...you have to draw the line in stone....NOT in sand.  Anywho, if you want to know the truth then you need to be truthful with him and stop playing his childish games.  Good Luck!