Does my husband watching p**n mean he will cheat ?

Question

Is it ok for a married man to watch p**n. Is it normal. Should i be upset. Does this mean he will cheat. He never has and we have been together for 4 years. How do I not be upset about it. Thanks for the help!

Answer 1

i don't think it is so bad. depends on how much and is he secretive about it? does it effect everyday life? every so often my hubby and i watch and it really gets a going. We have a great s*x life but I guess it is like something different.

Sometimes i think men are like kids, if u harp on them about something the more they want it.

When my hubby and i moved in together, some movies (p**n) came with him. At first I was shocked, i thought what does he need that for? The box went up in the attic with the rest of his junk (he put it there, he calls it his bachelor stuff)

One day while i was planning a romantic evening I pulled a couple out. He came home to a very naked me, a coffee table full of goodies, music, after some kissing i clicked the remote and it was a night we will never forget. Use it to your advantage. He will be shocked. We have a great s*x life but still after several years of marriage we still love finding new ways to entertain eachother. We still cuddle, hold hands, and kiss everytime we can. Our kids tell us all the time that we have been married to long to still like eachother so much.  

Answer 2

For some men watching p**n does not mean that he will cheat but.... If he keeps his mind in the gutter for long lengths of time and he over fantasizes about it to much he could put himself into the state of mind to be tempted to. You never know what type of pandoras box these videos may open in a mans mind but if they start affecting your personal intimacy with your husband then it could become a serious problem.You know the old saying about how curiosity kills the cat so....be very watchfull that he does not get wrapped up in it on a daily basis because to much of anything is not always healthy. If you are against p**n because it does not depict the true intimacy of two people in love and because it disgusts you then you need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband about it and ask him to stop and respect your feelings and views on it. If he chooses to continue watching it after you expressed your feelings on it and he does't quit then he has a problem with it and is choosing what he wants to do with it over you and needs professional intervention sweetie.

Answer 3

Does he know you don't like it? My husband looks at p**n, but it doesn't bother me. For him, it's not an obsession, and I know he would rather look at me. But, if you don't like it, then that is ok, too. Tell him how you feel, and if he has respect for you, he will stop.  You can also watch it together...it's a great way to find new positions. ;)  But, no, it doesn't mean he wants to cheat, he just likes to look. Men are visual creatures. GL!

Answer 4

Watching p**n does not mean he will cheat.  I suggest you don't ask people on here how you should feel, you should have your own thought.  No one can tell you how to feel about or in your relationship but you.  So many will scream, leave him, dump him...blah blah, but if you love the man and p**n is not controlling his life, let him have his p**n.

Answer 5

If your husband watches p**n that is is a sure sign that he does not cheat. Don't worry about it - I would guess that more than 90% of men are interested in p**n, and that has nothing to do with whether they are happy with the s*x life they have with their "live" partner.

Why don't you suggest to your husband that you watch p**n together? Chances are that he loves the idea. And you may get a couple of ideas to spruce up your marital life...    

Answer 6

No, you are overreacting or over cautious only. It does not mean as you are afraid of. It shall be better you too enjoy with him and make merry. As long as both of you are a company no one shall look outside.

Answer 7

well if u trust him then i think u are safe enough..........all guys look though, they must think that the grass is always grener on the other side........

on the other hand, i found that watching p**n with my husband added to our s*x life........u could try it......if ur comfortable with it.......

i too was uncomfortable when i saw my husband watching it, and I too felt vulernable...but that all changed when i watched it with him.

Answer 8

I know what you mean. My ex always watched p**n...always! And I hated it. He never cheated though...

He would always put it on, and materbate to it my ex. I put up with it. In memory it makes me cringe....

He said all men do it. Yuck  

Answer 9

It doesnt mean that he will cheat - but everything in moderation. So you need to make sure this is not a Habit. Do you watch with him? If so that can be good for you - but again you need to watch to make sure this does not consume his everyday.

Answer 10

If your relationship is secure and you are comfortable with it ask him about his fantasies. Maybe he is simply holding back and watching p**n to fulfill a desire.

Or he just simply a horn dog!

Answer 11

No he just like to watch it.He will only cheat if you stop having s*x with him.Try watching it with him and watch the out come .

Answer 12

It means he still has a Healthy appetite.

Serve him well, so he will not have the need to watch such rubbish.

Answer 13

Yes, definitely.  And if he likes James Bond movies he is probably a secret agent, or he will be in the future. And if he likes science fiction movies he may be an alien or will become one, check to see if there is a lizard like creature under his skin!

Really? No.  He looks at p**n to m********e, just like your vibrator or shower massage that you use to help get yourself off.  ALL men m********e and it is perfectly normal for a visual creatue like a man to want to look at something to get him off.  

He has been looking at p**n since he was 12-13.  Sorry to tell you, but hey, it is the truth, deal with it or you can divorce him and then marry another man that masturbates and looks at p**n.  Take your choice.

Please do NOT be one of these silly women that extorts "promises" that he won't look at p**n or m********e (or breathe) and then be disappointed and want to go see a counselor who looks at p**n and masturbates or a minister that looks at p**n and masturbates (but says he doesn't and says it is a sin, but gets forgiveness for his sin).  It not only leads to disappointment at some point ...worse than that it conditions him to LIE to you.  Don't do it.

Answer 14

If your husband is watching p**n, then he's just horny and needs a reason to release his beast. I suggest you help him out.