Does my wedding sound dinky to you?

Question

My fiance and I are young and we can't really afford a big wedding. I just feel that everyone will think it's a trashy wedding. We are having our ceremony at the park. There will be no chairs. Not allowed at the park. Our colors are Fuchsia and yellow. My mom can't afford suits for my brothers, so they will be wearing black going out shirts with pants and a pink ties. My flower girls will be wearing tuts and my bridesmaid will be wearing simple pink dresses.

My reception will be held in my sisters small apt. It's pretty small but we will be moving the sofas out of the way and I will be renting chairs for everybody. My flowers and bouquet are silk and not the best quality but still nice! Were cheap. My family will be doing the food. Instead of a DJ, we will be having a playlist in my sisters ipod. I just feel that wedding doesn't sound appealing. We are going to have less than 50 guests. My wedding dress is probably too much for my wedding. It's a tulle dress from Jessica mclintock... But I love it. Honestly, what do you think of my wedding? what can I do to make it more special?

Our cake is from shop rite. ;p

Answer 1

You know all that matters is that you and your fiance stay together.  People have the most elaborate weddings and get divorced.  As long as your in love and you know he's the one the wedding doesn't really matter.  I wish you all the luck in the world!

Answer 2

i honestly think that there can be much happiness found in simplicity.

your young  in love,

people cannot expect some extravagant reception.

have fun,and dont worry,because the less you do,the less others will.

have fun :)

Answer 3

It sounds simple and nice. The only thing I dont really like (sorry) is the no chairs part. Do you know anyone with a decent size back yard? You can have it all there! Someone in your family should have a back yard or maybe a friend of the family does? My aunt let someone (friend of friend) use her back yard and she was honoured to have a wedding there.

PS: I hear martha stewart wedding decorations at walmart are really nice and inexpensive.

Answer 4

Well it's okay!

But I really don't think you should have the reception at an appartment.

Answer 5

I think that you sound like a remarkably sensible young woman that understands  that the the purpose of getting family and friends together on this very special occasion is to have witnesses to the joy that you and your new husband will share.  You also understand the meaning of having and entertaining guests within your budget instead having a "captive" group that is expected to finance your party.  Kudos to you and your family and best wishes for a happy and successful marriage.  

Answer 6

I think it is sweet. Who cares what people think or how fancy it is, it is all about how much you love each other. :]

Answer 7

Not at all. wedding aren't supposed to be all about money and being dressed in a white dress and the men in tux's... it's about an event to show you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, weddings are never dinky. ;)

Answer 8

No, marriage is not about how much you spend.  It's about the how much you love each other.

Just an idea if your worried about renting seats.  Why not have the guest bring their lawn chairs to the outside wedding and bring it back to your indoor wedding ceremony.

That should save you a few dollars.

Answer 9

if there's alcohol people will enjoy it, and honestly, have it on the beach where you can wear relaxed clothing and you won't have to pay anything...also, people will reallllly enjoy that type of wedding i know that's what i might want to do with mine

Answer 10

It's your day! Your wedding! If your truly happy with each other, yous could all be wearing garbage bags, and have hot dogs at your reception, and twinkies for dessert and it would be the happiest day of your life. Don't worry about what others think, we all do what we can do, and make to best of it. I hope you have a wonderful wedding day! Best Wishes!

Answer 11

as long as you're happy,,,,, that's priceless ,, enjoy you're day

Answer 12

omg... i feel so bad but atleast your trying

im guessing you pricerange is under$5000

im so sorry

keep trying though

maybe get a hall itwould b beter forthe recepptionn

Answer 13

well even if its not the most extravagante wedding you definetly want to make it memorable. but remember the good things, not the bad ones.

for your bro's: you can always rent suits.

i think small wedding are always sweet because its less pressurizing.

Answer 14

You know what, it's your day and as long as you are happy with it, that's what matters.  I see no need to go into a great amount of debt or spend money crazily, when in the end you still end up married.  best wishes!

Answer 15

are you a member of a church some churches if your a member will let you rent their social halls for a reception, also you should be happy with your wedding. dont settle make what makes you happy you can find great afforadable ideas, the apartment im not agreeing to but the rest sounds fine! goodluck

Answer 16

I think it sounds very sweet, and you are very smart to realize your limits and not want to spend a lot of money.  The small apartment might be a problem though.  Why can't you have the reception at the park where the ceremony is held?  You can hook the iPod up to a speaker so the sound will carry around the park.

My daughter's wedding was in a park recently.  There was a legion hall across the street, and we had the reception there, but the weather was nice enough we could have just held the reception in the park.

It was a very beautiful wedding.

Fancy stuff isn't necessary, and silk flowers are very nice because they don't wilt and you will still have them years from now.  Your dress sounds beautiful, and nothing wrong with having a special wedding dress even if you don't have a lot of other expensive things.

What really matters is the vows and everybody having a nice time, and a loving relationship with your family and friends.  Good for you!  Congratulations!

Answer 17

really what i think is that your wedding shouldnt be about all the decorations and all the beautifulness of the place your at. it should revolve around the bride and groom. who cares if your family and friends dont like where you are. they should like it just because your happy and your getting married they shouldnt care about all the things at the wedding.

Answer 18

although some people picture huge fancy weddings, its not important on how much you spend. the whole idea is just to get married and have a special bond with your person. you could get married in the middle of a war scene with people dying all around you, and it wouldnt matter because ts still the best day of your life.

Answer 19

Why don't you just wait a couple years..there's no need to rush things.

It's your life though, do whatever you want (:

Answer 20

It sounds wonderful...we should have done something similar!  Instead we're having 150 guests and the total bill, including honeymoon, will be around $20,000!  You'll be glad that you saved a ton of money!  You did the right thing....it will be lovely...intimate and special.  Good for you.

Answer 21

if it means all that much to you maybe u should ask to hold it off until you can have the right kinda wedding.Im not married or nuthin but i can imagine how some women are and 1 year donw the road u will be yelling at him probably about ur wedding and everytime u do sumthin like watch a movie with a nice wedding or sumthin like that u will be feelin bad maybe u no??

Answer 22

It doesn't matter about how fancy the wedding is. It just matters that you are binding with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But if you really want to...... decorate your sisters apartment with little things like rose petals on the tables and stuff like that. I think it sounds like a nice romantic wedding though! :D

Answer 23

In my opinion the wedding means nothing if the marriage doesnt work, its more about who your are getting married to. Don't get to caught up in the external things of marriage to much, what you have is fine.  

Answer 24

Who cares!?  Its sounds lovely and quaint.  In this economy, you gotta do what you gotta do.  It's really about sharing your marriage with your family and friends.  It's doesn't need to be some high brow overdone event.  Don't  give it another thought and enjoy.   Best wishes!

Answer 25

Its your wedding.

*note* Beach weddings are also free and you can have chairs and use bows to decorate the chairs lining the aisle so people can sit down, and that way everyone doesn't feel like they should be dressing formal, beach weddings are definiately more laid back and casual which matches your personality it seems

Answer 26

i would expect that wedding on My Name Is Earl. or in sum run-down trailer park. honestly. i think you shoud wait until u can afford a nice wedding. sorry for being so painfully honest

Answer 27

sounds alot like my wedding and it was a blast!  everyone had an awesome time.  We got married at a small chapel, reception was in my parents basement, mom made the food, we made cds of our music.  it was so mich fun because everyone could relax and have a good time without worrying about anything.  we also had only about 40 guests.  your wedding day is what you make of it and your friends and family love you so they will love your wedding too.  good luck, congrats and have fun.

Answer 28

it's not the type of weddings i'm used to going too. but if you don't have the money for a semi-expensive one... i guess you have to deal with what you have?

the only thing i'd have a serious problem with is the whole "no chairs" during the ceremony. Ceremonies can go on for up to 45 minutes at times.

Answer 29

In all honesty, I think the day is what you make of it. The day is about your love for one another, your commitment and the future.....no, the apartment reception isn't ideal but its a reception all the same. some of the best weddings I've been to have been on a tight budget. What does it matter what anyone else thinks anyway? All the best.

Answer 30

I think your wedding sounds perfectly fine, im young as well and got married last year, at the court house, and we celebrated later with his family at western sizzlin, (which is a nasty restaurant)  As long as you have family and friends there that love you, thats all you really need to worry about.  

Answer 31

I think your wedding sounds lovely! When I get married I would love to have a little wedding. I feel bad that you can't have chairs though. What kind of a park doesn't let you have chairs?  hmmm.....maybe you could call the park owners and see about getting them to let you have chairs.

Anyway, I love how relaxed this wedding sounds! I bet it will be awesome. Congratulations!!!