Does "unconditional love" mean being a doormat with low self esteem and no expectations?

Question

I mean I know this guy who says he "loves" this twink "unconditionally" even though the twink is dating another guy and ignoring him!

wtf is up with that? thats not unconditional love, thats torture.

Answer 1

Nah-ah.  Honey if someone doesn't treat you right, he doesn't deserve your unconditional love.  Find someone better who'll be good to you.

Answer 2

In the situation that you spoke of about the guy you knew, it is not "unconditional love". If someone is ignoring you and dating another guy and yet this guy still have this "unconditional love" for that person then it is really blind,creepy....and yes torture. I don't have to explain what's "unconditional love" to you since I knew you are a smart guy.

Answer 3

no unconditional love is loving someone no matter wat no matter how many stupid fights u have because u both know they are stupid and u still love each other. the other thing u described is someone just using them just to be with someone.  

Answer 4

no

Answer 5

Dear Greg,

It is my hope that you are this persons friend and if so you are to be commended for being a friend and caring about what happens to your friend.  Thank you that is refreshing to see in today's society.

Now, honesty is the best policy no matter what is said, read or heard, it will not change the facts from the truth.  Your friend needs to wake up and smell the coffee.  "Unconditional love" has nothing to do with being a "doormat" or having someone you care about "igging" (ignoring) you.  It has to do with loving someone so much that you would be willing to let them go and you could be okay with that.  If your friend is not getting any response from this twink then you let him know as your friend and that you care about him and want him to see that this twink is just being very selfish and self-centered on himself only.

You could be the ego booster that your friend needs and that is a good thing for you since you are closer to him at this point.  I hope you can be there for your friend when he falls as it could be very emotional for him and since you are his friend he may lean on you for the emotional support that he will need at the time.

Good luck and ya'll will be in my prayers, May God Bless!  

Answer 6

Definitely not.  People with low self-esteem have a hard enough time loving themselves, so how can they love another.  They can DEPEND on that other person and mistake it for love.

Unconditional love is the love a parent SHOULD have for their child.  Using the current context of GLBTQ (sorry of I forgot any), it is hard for most parents brought up in a hetero dominated culture to accept that their child is g*y/bi/TG, etc.  They show their unconditional love by supporting that child's choice/lifestyle in the face of external criticism.  There is still an unjustified stigma attached to being g*y, although more and more societies are becoming accepting of it.

Hope this helps.