Does rape always(how often) result in mental-sexual problems later?

Question

My girlfriend was raped about a year ago and I'm just wondering if she does get "over" the rape and wants to start having s*x, might she still have troubles creating or maintaining a normal s*x life?

'General to the topic' or 'specific to my situation' answers are much appreciated.

Answer 1

First of all I am sorry to hear that. I'm here if she wants to talk.I was raped but it never affected my s*x life because I told myself it didn't happen so I continued having s*x like normal.

Although I have problems with blow-jobs.And my wrists getting touched and my head getting pulled in cretan ways.

So I guess you do go about things differently I mean ya I can have s*x like normal but Other things really get to me.

So I'm assuming she will to.

When she is ready let her be the one in control of everything.

Sorry I couldn't be more help.

Answer 2

It is almost impossible to go through a traumatic event like that and not be affected in some way but with therapy and support it is possible to have a "normal" life.  Yes, it is very possible she will have trouble having a normal relationship after being violated.  You need to be there for her, not push her into s*x and be supportive if she needs to see a psychologist or doctor to help her move on.

Answer 3

yes it really does matter i was molested as a child (8) and im 20 today i went through alot of different fazes i lost my virginity at (14) and just didnt care about myself that much and had more then enough s*x partners by the time i was (16) well i went to a pyscitrist for 2 yrs and beleive it or not it helped me alot its all about you feeling more comfotable with your-self and to know there is nothing you can do about the past but let you go and live now i hope that helps...

Answer 4

dont bring stuff like that up jus w8 till she mentions it best way to go

Answer 5

Some group therapy...she will  realize she is not alone in this..after a year I know you patience must be getting thin but hang in there, be open and honest with her.

Answer 6

dont push her when she is ready you will know, if she has a loving and supportive group around her she will come around, I personally havent been raped but was sexually assualted by 4 male classmates in highschool and now cannot handle being surrounded by men, I mean if I find myself in the centre of a group of men I tend to start throwing punches to get out, I dont need to but I get a feeling in my belly and I let fly, it will take a few years to fully get over but having a loving partner by her side who isnt putting pressure on her will make it alot easier.

NEVER LET HER THINK IT WAS HER FAULT, if she does discuss it and leans toward the "was it my fault" "did I provoke it" thoughts let her know that it isnt wasnt her fault and that you will always be there for her no matter what.

She is lucky to have someone like you who cares.