Does she hate me? I'm confused. =[

Question

Sorry that it's a bit long but I need some advice...please...=]

I have this friend that just graduated from High School. We were starting to become really close friends, we went out to lunch, we talked in class, we helped each other out, traveled with each other and everything!! But ever since she graduated, she doesn't really want to be bothered with me. I message her on Myspace, but she never replies to them and she's on there A LOT. I get too nervous to call her or text her.

The last time I saw her in person was at Farmer's Market about 2 months ago. She seemed pretty happy that she saw me.

So I messaged her again asking her if she wanted to chill sometime before she had to leave for college, and she actually replied and said yes. I asked her what time and everything, but she never called me or anything, and it never happened. She didn't even say goodbye to me when she left.

I have another friend that is also friends with her, and lately, I've been noticing her talking to him and asking him about his life. But why doesn't she talk to me? I sent her a picture comment telling her that I missed her, but she never messaged me or anything.

I'm really hurt and confused by this. I don't understand how she can talk to my friend, but not me. I really hope I didn't do anything wrong. I know I didn't. We never argued before or anything negitive happened in our friendship. I'm starting to think that she hates me and I don't know why.

My mother told me that usually once people graduate, they move on. But I'm a senior this year, and so is my friend that she's been talking to.

Why doesn't she want to be bothered with me? She was a really good friend of mine and I love her to death, and I don't know what happened us.

Should I let it go, or say something? =[

Answer 1

You need to step up and be the bigger person.  CALL HER, if you did nothing wrong, you should not be bothered by calling her.  But you have to do it soon, you should really see her before she leaves.  She is probably VERY busy, as well as nervous getting ready for college, and probably does not even realize that she is hurting you.

Go out for lunch, or coffee, tell her it's your treat since she is leaving!!

If she doesn't answer your call, don't be discouraged, leave her a message, and then try her again later in the day.

Good luck, and keep smiling!!  Remember that while she is gone, you will both make new friends and it's okay to move on!  It's really hard to keep that relationship going, but good for you if you can do it!

Answer 2

time for you to move on just like she has.  chances are you're not going to get an explanation.  unless you're not going to do anything with your life except think about what might have been, it's time start making plans for college, jobs, careers, new friends.