Does someone ever get over Borderline personality disorder?

Question

I was just wondering as I have days were I’m great feel so happy and then I have days where I’m so sad.. why does this happen? And to the point I want to kill myself

But I don’t as I have three beautiful children and a husband and a family that love me.

And I don’t want to hurt them either as I love them so much.

I have days were things are just black or white there is no in between. And my psychiatrist said to take things in control like go walking do physical stuff but I don’t know where to start?

I am on 20mg of zyprexa and 225mg of effexor XR and somedays I feel like the medication just makes me into a zombie and I cant really be there for anyone … some days I wish I could make my husband happy there are days I just feel so alone and hopeless…

And I don’t know where to go from here I see my social worker twice a week (but soon only be once a week) and I don’t know how I will cope with that.. she suggested that I move down too once a week in the next couple weeks.

I see my psychiatrist once a month and my doctor when I need to see him but I still feel down and numb and don’t know whats next I have all the support in a care plan but I don’t know what to do next any suggestions?

I also have faith in the lord and that does help me! But I see my social worker at the church and I sometimes go to the Sunday service .. and I have all faith in the lord and met some lovely people at the church.

What else could I do please help I just feel icky and stupid, down , numb, angry etc

Thanks for the help!

Answer 1

That's borderline for you. It doesn't go away, it's part of who you are psychologically. The best thing you can do is find a therapist and stick with him/her, regardless of how you feel. Keep working. See your therapist as often as possible. Weekly if possible, if not more.

It's not going to go away, but you can work on it. Reduce your symptoms, work on your problems. It's an ongoing process, one that's not always easy. But it's the healthiest thing for you, and it's the healthiest thing for your family.

By what you say, you're on the right track. Stick with it, and the best of luck to you.

Answer 2

you sure about the diagnosis? you don't sound Borderline at all to me, though no diagnosis can or should be made like this..

go here and see "DSM IV Criteria", at the bottom of the page

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/bpd.h...

you sound depressed but not furious or irrational (at the time of writing anyway)

tell your psychiatrist that you continue to feel this way. ask if this should be expected, etc. Effexor usually gets working pretty fast and you're taking a large dose, so it could be that another would help you more. But if you don't ask, alot of times people will blow you off

People with Borderline are hard to treat, but often the key lies in therapy, and sticking with it. exercise will help the depression (walk around the block, do 50 jumping jacks when you get up, yard work, anything that gets you moving). BPD can be overcome though

a great book- "I Hate you- Don't Leave Me" all about BPD. Has many examples of people with it and how they were treated.

good luck

Answer 3

Yes, people do 'recover' from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).  It is not an instant recovery, by no means.  It is a matter of learning self management skills, of identifying the behaviors that are problematic and replacing inappropriate behaviors with ones that are appropriate.  It's taking responsibility for yourself.  BPD simply means you have developed ways of coping with life that are not healthy...and yes, this is an over simplification, but very true.  And very reassuring, because you can learn more effective, functional  ways of coping.  And when you do that, you will feel better about yourself.

Answer 4

Personality disorders are a form of mental illness and all mental illnesses can be managed through therapy and medication, but never completely cured. That being said, we all have our days of feeling down and icky etc so don't assume that is part of your mental condition. Keep doing what you are doing, get comfort from religion since it helps and stop looking for a cure so dissapointment doesn't lead to feeling worse. Also talk to your doctor about adjusting your meds -you may be on the wrong dosage or need time for them to work right if you just got started. The social worker is bound by confidentiality/HIPPA laws so she won't tell anyone and risk losing her license and/or job. If you are feeling bad enough to harm yourself or someone else, please call 1-800-suicide and they will be able to help you.

Answer 5

Meds don't treat BPD. Pending on what other disorders accompany it Dr's can prescribe stuff to relieve anxiety, stress, etc. I've taken everything  to little or no avail.  Xanax seems to be helping.

I keep hearing about Diabolical BT & cognitive therapy & I am so sick of it. I feel your pain. I think BPD is worse than a lot of other disorders & i think it's sad some people & DR'S don't think it's a REAL illness.

Also I know every1's bodies is different but I would stay away from the Zyprexa & Effexxor. I have had BAD experiences with both of them.

* Another good book is "Get Me Out Of Here" by Rachel Reiland*