Does the Bride pay for the bridesmaid's motel

Question

Here's the deal, The city I'm getting married @ is an hr away. My girls live in the same city as me. They are suggesting that we get a room (Motel) so we don't have to drive up there early. Here's the deal, they are saying that I should pay for it or my fiance's parents.. Is that true or do they pay for themselves?

Please help!! I'm getting married this Sat and a lot of things are coming out and I'm under stress..

Answer 1

No. They pay for their own hotel rooms. They are being ridiculous. There is no need for a motel room in the first place. They are taking advantage of you. You did not choose the right people to be your attendants. They are supposed to make things less stressful for you, not more so.

Answer 2

It is up to them to pay for their accomodations. To make it easier, everyone should just pitch in (except you of course).

Answer 3

well if it's a hotel for you and all your girls for the night before, they could help pitch in. However I had all bridesmaids that wouldn't pay for c**p. One wouldn't even pay for her dress. Yeah... so I paid for the hotel the night before. I figured that even if they weren't staying there, I'd be getting a hotel anyway... so might as well pay for it.

But if your girls have money and you didn't clean out their wallets by getting expensive BM dresses, ask them to pitch in at least $20 - $30 each!  

Answer 4

I think they should pay.  I performed a ceremony for my brother's best friend, and it was about an hour and a half away.  Since I was invited to the reception as well, my hubby and I got a room in their town so we would not be on the freeway late at night....  Never expected them to pay for my travel expense.  

Answer 5

Emily Post says that bride's family is supposed to pay for it.

However, I don't know anyone who adheres to this rule.

$15 a person is cheap. Tell them sorry!

Answer 6

$15?  That's tacky!  THEY suggested the room.  Nobody HAS to stay there, do they?  Ask them to pitch in; if they don't want to, then they don't have to stay the night.  I guess another question is would you be in that hotel room with or without them?  Still doesn't really change my mind, though.  

Hotels only get paid for if the couple (or couple's family) are independently wealthy and offer to pay.  It is never assumed.

Answer 7

If the wedding is out of town, then all guests usually pay for their own hotel accomodations.  You should not feel obligated to pay for their rooms if you don't want to.