Does the DD (Domestic Discipline) lifestyle degrade women/wives? ?

Question

Do you think that because some husbands administer DD onto their wives (ie-spanking & the like), the women are degraded in fashion? Would you become a part of this? Do you think it is degrading to women?

I am somewhat interested in the lifestyle for the future but I have researched it recently, it sounds like it would keep things interesting if both parties were sane & available to the idea...Thoughts?

Answer 1

I personally think it means treating the woman like a disobedient child and the man as her keeper, so obviously I would never dream of getting involved in it. But if that's what you're into, it's none of my business.

Answer 2

No, it doesn't degrade women.  If it is something you both want, it greatly enhances a relationship.  it's done wonders for my husband and me.

I was always very strongly attracted by the idea, but it wasn't until I discovered the Internet a few years ago and started reading DD sites, that I found that there are a lot of couples around practising this lifestyle.

Mostly it is the women who seem to have the strongest desire for this kind of relationship, in the majority of cases, it's the women who introduce the idea to their husbands or boyfriends.  When the men take to it, it's great, but sometimes you read about women who are trying to persuade men who are obviously reluctant, bewildered, or completely out of their depth with the whole thing.  I always feel a bit sorry for these men.  They desperately want to make their wives happy, but they are simply not comfortable doing it.

But for couples for whom it works, the same results always seem to occur, it reduces arguments and stress, opens up communication, makes them more understanding of each other, and sensitive to each other's needs, brings them closer together, and it invariably makes the man much more desirable in his wife's eyes.  Everyone who gets into DD seems to report these results.  

And Rio is quite mistaken about it being about treating the woman as a child, on the contrary I have never felt more adult than I do in my relations with my husband now.

I think the important thing is to find a man who really likes the idea and is comfortable doing it.  A lot of unhappiness and disappointment can be avoided that way.

Answer 3

As long as both parties are fully consenting, then no. If a wife feels pressured to go along with this lifestyle but really doesn't want to, then it is degrading, and could even be abuse. If it's your thing, go for it. Lots of women find it very satisfying.

Answer 4

Yes, I do believe they are being degraded; the only ones who truly don't feel degraded are those who are into S&M.*Now I would not become a part of it.*Yes, I believe that it's very degrading to women.

Do some more research, ask around and from there make up your own mind.

Answer 5

No, because some couples practice this with the female in the dominant role.  As long as both partners are happy with their role, it's a great thing.  Usually, it is the sub (whether male or female) who enjoys and benefits most from the arrangement.  (Typically, the dom does more work, and the sub gets off hugely.)

I would consider practicing this to a limited degree;  I have enough other hobbies and responsibilities that I could not be a full time sub, but I would do it in a limited way.  It's a moot point for me because I am involved with someone who is not into DD, and would probably not be a dom even if he were.  The relationship is fantastic otherwise, so I cope!

While I generally think DD is great, one must, of course, keep in mind that it is important to find a partner who suits you and keeps your needs in mind, not just any guy who is willing to be a dom.

Answer 6

it's just bdsm..they relentlessly deny this but it's blatantly obvious

the sexual kinks of consenting adults are of no concern or interest to me

Answer 7

I think its a sexual lifestyle and as such is a choice between two people in a relationship.

Answer 8

If the woman receives immense satisfaction like no other kind she can accrue in her life then it is not degrading..If it gives her what she needs, it is not degrading...If it builds her up it is not degrading..if it releases her, it is not degrading

Rio is right in that it is treating the woman like a child but unfortunately I have a Daddy's little girl fetish which is hard to eschew!

If it brings you joy and you feel safe, go for it

Answer 9

NO WAY FOR ME!!!

Answer 10

I guess it depends. But people who fall into those things tend to be "different" or rather there minds and soul's require such things or it wouldn't last long.

  Some people are just more dominant and some are more submissive.

But from what I have read about this the power roles are not gender based but rather who is submissive and who is dominant by nature.

Not all women are submissive and not all men are dominant.

Answer 11

How about you come over and I whip your backside for a few hours. Get this recurring fetish fantasy out of your system.

Answer 12

As another poster astutely observed, it is just the bdsm lifestyle wrapped up in a religion-endorsed package.

What happens behind closed doors is no concern of mine...which is why I DON'T wanna read about it on the internet.

Answer 13

There's a fine line between pleasure and pain.  I think it's kinky and I don't want to degraded like that.  If it's a sexual turn on to both then everyone to their own, I guess.  Maybe the man should be diciplined too.