Does the bible say anything about honoring you abusive mother and drunk beating dad?

Question

Does the bible say anything about honoring you abusive mother and drunk beating dad?

Answer 1

Did anyone who wrote the bible live with your parents? If not, then you need to seek some other advice.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you have to ask such a question.  The bible won't help you there, don't care what anyone says.  Good Luck.  Tough break.

Answer 3

Being a pastor I can understand that it might be hard for you to believe this but God does have a plan, no matter how ridiculous it i.  

Answer 4

The bible says a lot of things, but in the end, the books in the bible were all written by humans. They're just one human opinion or observation after another.

Abusive parents don't have an excuse. A fundamental principle of human decency - bible or no bible - is that no matter what c**p you've been through, there is no reason to go and inflict it on someone else.

Answer 5

The writers have Jesus saying that he did not come here to bring peace but war, and he came to turn father against son, son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother etc etc.  If you are having problems and can't handle it, you better get some help.

Answer 6

Yeah, but doesn't mean you should support them in this manner. You should probably move out anyhow. Parents still be honored even if they're dead.

Answer 7

yes, you honor them by understanding they did the best they could with the lives they were given.  They might not have done well, but you can honor the fact they tried and take comfort in the knowledge they will feel pretty bad when they realize what they have done after they die.  

We are all human, some people are pretty screwed up.  Thats just life.  Think of how those trials can help you develop into a stronger person and help others with similar problems.  

As bas as it might seem, there are always 2 ways to look at things-  

Answer 8

I had the same type of discussion with my brother about wives submitting to their husband. If a husband is abusive to their wife should they submit to the husband?

Let's look at it like this.   Is it good to honor your mother in any situation?

If yes. Then try to honor your father and mother in any situation, because it's good to do so. Don't intentionally dishonor your father and mother.

Is it good for wives to submit to their husband in any situation?  If yes, then in every situation the wives should try to submit within reason to their  husband. In other words, if the husband is abusive, then you can't submit to them, but don't make that an excuse to rebel against them. Same goes with your parents. Sure they are abusive, but don't make it an excuse to rebel against them. Pray that they change. That's how you can honor them. Praying for them is your way of honoring them.

Answer 9

It's their fault to be like that unto you. But it'd be your fault if you don't honor them.

Answer 10

Nope, no specifications.... just to obey them regardless....

Answer 11

I believe the Bible is very clear............You are to honor your mother and father ( You could simply honor them for giving you life) But that is the end of it. If they are out of control, God gets it.

If you are an adult cut ties. If you are a child go to an adult you trust and call Child Protective Services.

GET OUT OF HARMS WAY. God also gave you a brain and free will.  

Answer 12

yes, "honor thy mother and father" and "turn the other cheek"

Answer 13

Honor means to show them respect even if they do not deserve it.

They are older and to show them respect.

Answer 14

Yep.  But it also says, "Fathers, Provoke Not Your Children to Wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”  Ephesians 6:4

Answer 15

Yeah.

I'm sorry for what you have to go through, but respect them the best you can.

Following the Commandments is about your soul, not theirs.

Pray for strength and guidance, and know that many have been where you are and that you can overcome this.

Good luck

<3

Answer 16

thats funny you say that. It says to honor your mother and father. But I too had a rough time with that because my parents didnt demand respect in the right way. I actually did every thing i could to not be like my parents. and i turned out great. I used my friends parents as surrogats, i hope i spelled that right. lol. Other than my spelling, i turned out great, lol. This apple fell very far from the tree. as they put it. If your parents are wicked. dont be like them. but your life will go smoother if you find a way to get along and deal. until your on your own. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 17

... sorry i cant answer that I'm catholic  

Answer 18

yes. you should always honor them. its ok to dislike them. but you need to honor them if you want to go to heaven...

Answer 19

Bible says you to respect your parents. If your mother and father are not good, you can't leave them. Try to cooperate with them. But if they order you anything not permitted in religion then you should not listen to them. But if your mother is abusive and your father drinks or beat you, you should cooperate. You can go out of the home at that time or can lock yourself in your room till he gets cool. Remember, Bible orders to respect your parents unless they say anything "to you" not permitted in religion. If they are bad, then they are for themselves. There is not anything bad for you in them.

Answer 20

Children should never be abused, if they are they should be telling someone.I adopted two abused kids one is mentally handicapped because of it . Even Christ spoke of how to treat children.

tGod bless

Answer 21

Honoring your parents means that you don't bring dishonor to them. even if they bring dishonor to you you must not bring it to them. In other words do nothing to shame them.  

Answer 22

The Bible has many ideals that do not make sense in real life.  If you are a Christian you may want to find a place of safety and distance from which you can honor them as much as possible, but there are other ideals that would come before honor in this case (like not letting evil prosper; like justice; like not harming one of these little one's).  It would certainly be noble and selfless to find a safe and healthy way to honor parents like these, but do not let anyone make you think that such a comand trumps your safety and health.  That is ridiculous.

They are not honoring God with there parenting, so we have left ideal land a long time ago.

Answer 23

The Bible does say that God's will surpasses your parents' will.  So, it is God's will for parents to not abuse their children, it is God's will for children to be removed from abusive homes, and it's God's will for children to be able to protect themselves from horrible parents that do such things.

Answer 24

In my opinion:

"Love thy neighbour as thyself." That law trumps "Honor thy father and thy mother." Your duty to your parents (if they are wicked), is to bring them out of wickedness. If you cannot, then distance yourself from them; as long as they are sinning against you, they are damning their own souls. If you are passively facilitating their damnation when you don't have to, then you are not loving them as you love yourself.

*But*, you ought to consult a competent moral theologian on this question. Pax!

+JMJ

Answer 25

Honor Thy Father and Mother.

Don't whine bcuz ur family is dysfunctional.

Answer 26

"Honor thy mother and thy father."

You should do as they ask, but, I believe that only applies when they have righteous convictions. It might be hard, but you still have to love them. That's part of what honor means. Love is the strongest tool out there for turning someone's life around.

Answer 27

Yes.

"Spare the rod, spoil the child"

Basically, beat your children, cause they deserve it.

Answer 28

I'm not sure

I imagine the bible does speak of treating others with respect and honoring yourself... and probably of loving your children and honoring them.  

I believe honoring abusive parents doesn't mean tolerating or putting up with the abuse - cause that's not okay under any circumstances.  I think it means, basically treating them with respect.  Treat them as you would want to be treated.  But also treat yourself as you want to be treated.  That's what everyone deserves.  You don't have to feel like you are supposed to feel good towards them and not feel angry at them if they are abusive to you... no way.  All the best

Answer 29

How do we honor an abusive parent? What responsibility do adult children have in regards to a relationship with their parents?

http://www.gotquestions.org/honor-abusiv...

Answer 30

just reverse what is said to Ephessians 6 :1

joke!

hahahahhah! peace out!

why are they like that?

Answer 31

yes as it says "honor thy mother and father" not "honor thy abusive mom and drunk dad" so youre the exception. if they dont fall under a regular mom and dad then theyre the exception.