Does the fact that people will come and go make you feel lonely?

Question

have you ever realy thought about it?

friends come and go, parents will die, family isn't reliable and distant, boyfriends and girlfriends will eventualy leave you. over the course of decades you will realize that over time everyone you have ever loved whether living or dead is nothing but a faded memory of times that are gone and you will never experience again.

if you think about it, relationships will almost always be temporary/ you go through life alone metting new people who go as fast as they come.

your thoughts?

Answer 1

Of course everyone will leave eventually.

But that's the entire point.

We all know that no matter what we do our time with the ones we love is limited, not only by the fact that they will leave but the inevitable fact that someday they (and we) won't exist. That means making your short time together more precious.

Whether we realize it or not, everyone in our lives touches us in some way (shut up perverts). We learn from each other and develop as human beings from the lessons we teach each other.

So no, I don't think I'd get lonely. I realize that my parents and friends around me will eventually walk out of my life, but the lessons they taught me will stay with me until I someday leave, too.

Answer 2

I can hear the flowing words of the beatles after reading this question..."let it be".

I personally try to look at what the person means to me at the time being, seize the moment, we truly own nothing in this world (our bodies are the closest to absolute ownship but even we can't do anything we want with it without consequence) so we hve to learn to do a combination of things:

to LIVE, to truly find what life is, what it means to live.

LOVE, to feel love to create ones own definition and to give it all without worry.

and lastly we must learn to LET GO. we have to learn to let go, to smile at the future and to smile back on what was has passed, remembering what it was for the time being and in that we must find HOPE.

hope for the future and things that will come along and be better or at least happy with something new.

Answer 3

Agreed. I went to 10 different schools in the first 12 grades; 5 different colleges. My parents moved around so much I never felt any "school spirit. Why should I? The next year I would be somewhere else.

Well, I am a senior citizen and don't move around much; but, people still "come and go".

It used to depress me; then I figured out that is the way of modern society; most people don't move around as much as I have, but it is common for people to move, to take new jobs, to divorce, remarry, etc.  There are few "permanent" relationships.

I learned to accept it, figuring maybe someday "we will meet again".

Answer 4

no, rather for me to say not at all;

because their coming and going away as long as within our consciences why they've came or will go.

and because i'm not a computer device which let anyone elses to come and go and leave me alone to be or not to be forgotten without any mental processes in my mind.  

Answer 5

Loneliness is generally unpleasant, so I choose not to care.

I have been called completely heartless, but in the end, we die too.  All that matters is having fun before you die, seeing as everything you have acomplished in life will most likely mean nothing after death.

Answer 6

What you described is so true. It is really very very sad and heart-wrenching to think about it, especially with regards to close ones. Even at 31...I have already realized overtime...that people come and go. I greatly admire people who live through losses...and yet, keep going on with a smile on their face. Hats off to them. I am much too sensitive and wonder how I can handle it..especially in terms of someone dying. Even losing a friend has emotionally affected me very deeply. Losing a love is even worse. Having someone walk out hits hard. Phew.

And yet...life without attchments and bonds will be such an empty life. It is so sad...to think that all we'd have left is a bunch of memories of times gone past.

I am yet to disocver the strength of losing people and still keeping myself happy and calm along the way. Time does help though....and so does, the entry of newer people in our life...that we start caring about. Some people will remain the Most Dear to us and always live with us in our hearts no matter how many new bonds we form. Others make a little impression, leave a little memory, and they are lost forever.

This is all just so sad. But we all have to find the strength within to expect this..and deal with it with as much groundedness as possible..

Answer 7

It's really a gloomy thoughts, most people face it.

Why not hang out, sit in a cafe, have a cup of capuccino,  or in a park, enjoy the sun shine, see the trees and flowers, see the sky, feel the breeze

Why not try to use the day, live for today, with whatever/whoever you have now.

too much thinking about tomorrow makes you lose today. and at the end you have nothing, not today and tomorrow.

If you believe in God, it will make it lighter

Answer 8

Of course, but it's not so bad if you're religious. It helps you to cope with this idea, to believe that there is something after where you can be reunited with these people. But if not, you have to remember to keep the good times in mind, the happy memories, you know. But I do agree, it is sad that people come and go, even in high school. We've all worked so hard at the social niches we occupy. But when we go away to college or the armed forces or our jobs, its all dashed away. Kinda sad.

Answer 9

Well, yeah. Everything is temporary. Be sure to enjoy it all while you can.

Answer 10

"Yes, but..."

And that's all there is to say about that.

Answer 11

my thoughts are thats why you gotta enjoy being with  them while you can.. Have fun but don't do anything you'll regret later.. Dont think negatively of it or you'll end up depressed  

Answer 12

Not if at least some one is still around. It's not like you're the last person on earth. It's sad when someone dies, but don't mourn people before they're gone. It might just take the joy out of your life.

Answer 13

I have never felt loneliness. I am missing the gene.  

Answer 14

I am never alone and never will be.. Even after my family dies, I know I will see them again. And I'm really sorry you feel that way....?