Does the maid of honor give a speech at the wedding reception?

Question

Im the maid on honor in my friends wedding. In the reception do I give a toast or a speech? She says I do. But online they say that basically the father of the bride then the groom then the best man gives it in that order nothing about the maid of honor. Please help they are getting married on Friday.Thank you!

Answer 1

Traditionally, the best man gives the speech. But you don't have to follow tradition. At my wedding in March 2007, my husband's twin brother (best man) gave a speech and it was really stupid and made no sense... Then my maid of honor (my best friend since 5th grade) gave a surprise speech. I cried. It was beautiful and it was a surprise. It made my day.

Don't force anyone into making a speech. I think that's why the one my brother in law gave sucked. He felt pressured and obligated. Then my MOH gave hers on the spot-- unpressured and unplanned. Beautiful.

Answer 2

Sometimes, yes, depending upon what the couple wants. The last few weddings we have been to, the MOH gave a toast to the bride.

Answer 3

This would be appropriate, especially if the bride would like you to do it.  Make sure the announcer knows that you are going to do this and when.

Answer 4

Yes, you are correct, typically it's the best man and/or father of bride. But if you want to give one that's ok too... I didn't in the wedding that I was MOH cuz I don't do well with public speaking, I probably would have been so mortified I would have p*ssed myself, lol :)

Answer 5

MOH CAN HAVE SPEACH WHY NOT ? BE SURE YOU PRACTICE YOUR SPEECH OR ELSE ....

Answer 6

No. You don't have to give a speech. Only the best man does. :)

I guess none of you have been to enough wedding then. The Maid of Honor gives a speech at the "SHOWER" not the wedding.

Answer 7

Traditionally, your friend is right, but modern weddings seem to have the maid-of-honor also say a few words.  You don't have to make it lengthy...just mention your relationship to the bride, how happy you are for the two of them and raise your glass in their honor!  Best of Luck.

Answer 8

In the olden days, only the best man and the fathers would speak. However, it's the twenty-first century and women - including the maid of honor and female relatives of the bride - are often called upon to give toasts at the reception.

I'm MOH for a wedding this weekend and have been asked to speak. The "toasters" will be the best man, the fathers of the bride and groom, and myself.

If the bride asked you to give a toast, it's because you mean so much to her and she believes you will have something beautiful or funny to share with the guests. If you hate public speaking, beg off for that reason. But don't refuse to do it just because you think it's "untraditional."

Answer 9

You can if you want or if she wants you too.My maid of honor isn't,just the best man.My sis isMOH and she hates talking infront of crowds.You dont have to if your not comfortable.It's mainly the bestman that does one.

Answer 10

If she says you do you do. The couple can ask friends to speak at the reception. You can decline if there are extenuating circumstances (i.e. social anxiety), but if not then come up with something nice to say about your friend, how you met, and how happy you are for the couple.

Answer 11

If the bride ask you to give a speech you should do so. i am having both the best man and MOH give speeches