Does the "in love" have to wear off so fast?

Question

Does the "in love" have to wear off so fast?

Answer 1

I have to disagree with the person who said that it will wear off and be replaced by something far less exciting. True, some of the initial exhileration will wear off and the rush of first getting to know someone, but the "in love" part should not.  If you do not feel in love with a person, then you should not marry them. We are way past the days when we married a person for merely practical reasons.

You can be with someone for many years and still feel excited to be with that person. You have to sort of invent fun things to keep doing.

Answer 2

am i missing something?  why is this question under the category of water sports??

Answer 3

Yes, when it isn't love in the 1st place

Becos when its real love, it will last eternally

Answer 4

it is interesting that we split love into just "love" and then "in love"  I think that if you truly love someone then you are automatically in love with them and would remain so for as long as the relationship lasts  I AM CURRENT  WITH A LADY MANY YEARS MY JUNIOR AND I LOVE HER WITH EVERY OUNCE OF MY BEING...does that meant that I will not be in love with her for very long.  Not to my way of thinking.  I make no attempt to separate love from in love because she is everything to me in my life so I do not separate her from living, from loving, from breathing,  she is my life and I would not have it any other way so as far as this old guy is concerned I will always and forever be in love with her because she makes me who I am.... how can one separate that into categories

Answer 5

Simple answer:

    It simply doesn't and if you want to understand why from a professional (with biblical evidence of all things) read "Kosher s*x" by Shamuel (sp.?) Boteach.

Detailed answer:

  It depends how you think about it.

  If you go solely by things like genes and age (IE how somewhat looks not how they perform and how creative they are) then, yeah, you'll get a lot of that.

   Someone creative, fit, somewhat risky, and adventurous will always have a new challenge for you two.  Be it new ways to be naughty, working to run marathons together, wrestling in pools, sneaking in the bushes at a park in the evening, starting a band together and laughing about the gossip around it...it makes a huge difference.  Feeling in love with someone healthy is always competitive never "steady" but always stable it's like you're on the same team but playing a risky sport.

   Look for someone who lives to be good like that, not just look good in front of girls or their friends.  There are people who, while holding steady jobs, also live like they're 16 all their lives, like my girlfriend's family and my girlfriend.  My g/f grandparents, dare I admit, go camping and have "wrestling matches" evenings and they are nearly 80 (don't think about it too much, but it just shows it is possible).

    Meeting a new person is just a cheap way to find new, unpredictable things in your life (that's why so many girls confuse meeting a new fascinating friend with love).

     Good relationships are made with people always searching for new challenging adventures to add to their lives and aren't so lazy they need other people to do it for them.  

    Stereotypical marriage, for example, is often for people too lazy to trust themselves to be creative and/or active enough to keep the other person around without a legal bond protecting them.  

    So step up and make it happen and find a man with an equally strong attitude.

Answer 6

Yes, but if you're lucky it's replaced by something far less exciting, but much more lasting.