There have been posts concerning "natural family" or "traditional family", and the idea that these forms of family are the best for all involved--and all others are dysfunctional.
However, I have to question if the "father as the provider and mother as the caregiver" is the most fair form of family--for the father.
My aunt and uncle are a "traditional" family. She raises the kids, he works. However, while he works, my aunt becomes the disciplinary, the care giver, the one who knows what her children love or hate, the one who holds her children while they suffer through break-ups or knows which friends are good, bad, etc. Essentially, she runs the house and children. My uncle, who loves his children and his children love him, plays no real active part in the family. Because of his heavy work load to provide for his family, he has no real interaction.
My question is, is this really fair to fathers? In a traditional family, they are expected to work so long and hard and as a result, miss out on their children as they grow.
So how is adding a second income a bad thing? How does this hurt the father or children if the work load and full responsibility is shared on two shoulders instead of one?
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