Does the relationship between two cheaters (the husband and his mistress) actually work out?

Question

Does the relationship between two cheaters (the husband and his mistress) actually work out?

Answer 1

Not if the wife is as clever as a fox.

Answer 2

I'm in the same boat, so I was told that the chances that their relationship will fail is 90%.  They will never fully trust each other because, in my case, he was married, and she was the other woman.  He knows she will sleep with married men and she knows he cheats on his wife.  I'm the wife and I wouldn't want to be either of them.  And, eventually, you know it will fail too.  Good luck!

Answer 3

I have heard that some do and some don't....

Answer 4

Just saw statistics on this and its extremely rare. Something like only 15% of husband/mistress relationships survive any length of time after the husband has been caught. Of those 15% only about 3-4% end up getting married and of those 3 out 4 divorce within 3 years. Affairs build very one dimensional false relationships and when the reality sets in and they have to live with the "real" person....it ain't all that great. Also if they will cheat with you...they will cheat on you. You'll never trust each other.

Answer 5

It all depends on teh couple.  If you look at Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott, they seem to be doing good.

Answer 6

No, in the great majority of cases the relationship does not work out. This is proven by statistics. I do not know the evidential reasons why they do not work out I can guess: The relationship is based on a lie to begin with. Both cheating parties are entering into the relationship being untrustworthy individuals. Since real relationships are based on trust and the lacking of it makes for no foundation, the relationship is doomed from the start. In addition, there is a factor of secrecy, risk, lack of true commitment heightening the excitement in the very beginning. Once that has turned into a relationship that is out in the open, more is expected of each party. Generally the thrill is gone. Then comes the realization that the grass is not greener. More time is spent with eachother with more expectations and what used to be come and go as you please fling, becomes a tedious assignment. Next comes resentment when each party does not live up to the imagined dream and regrets and remorse is left to set in. On top of it, spouse that was cheating can actually feel resentment towards the new partner thinking if he/she cheated FOR me, he/she will cheat ON me.

Basically when people live there lives with a lack of moral fiber and integrity, karma comes around to bite them in the ***.

If you have been cheated on, living well is the best revenge. Don't dwell on your spouses life as it will only crash and burn. Good luck and keep your head high in the air for being the honest person. Someone out there is waiting to treat you like you deserve.

Answer 7

No especially where a male cheater is concerned, because he wants his cake and be able to eat it as well. The mistress is the play toy only while he can get away with it and they usually don't.

Answer 8

nah. he'll cheat on her too. and if she's smart she wont trust him. but then, if she was smart, she wouldnt have messed with another woman's husband, either....

Answer 9

Why you want to call them cheater? B4 the husband marry you, he might be having all nite fun with other girls out there, so that does that  mean he is not cheating on his future wife? Same as the girls who bedded other guys b4 she married to her future husband, didn't that is cheating too? Unless the wife is the only woman the husband had s*x with and the husband is the only man the wife had s*x with then when the wife or husband did it with others, to me that is consider cheating. To me, if one has a scar on his/her arm, does that mean after marriage the scar will disappear? So don't tell me it is different stories.

Based on my experience, i feel that over 80% it won't work out. Because b4 marriage, 1 plus 1 is equals to 2. After marriage 1 plus 1 is still equals to 2. So whatever one did in the past will somehow come back and haunt you in the duration of a marriage.

Answer 10

My brother & his wife are going on 5 years of married bliss & have a beautiful baby & another on the way.  Instead of a lot of negativity how about maybe the first marriage was nothing more than a MISTAKE & true love has found each other.  People are quick to jump on & judge what they don't know.  ALL situations are different, so don't judge!

Answer 11

Not that I've ever seen.  

Answer 12

No.  Because knowing that they cheated is always in the back of their minds.  Always.  One false move, and they accuse each other of cheating.  Happens every time.