My husband likes his space from me and likes to judge when it's an okay time for intimacy and when it's not. I'm not talking about just s*x. It's a whole ton of things. For instance, if he's in a "mood" and I put my foot too far on "his" side of the couch, then he looks at my foot like it's offending him and tells me it's in his way (and we're not talking about my foot being on him...just to his side of the middle cushion). Also, if I stand too far in the middle of our two sinks in the bathroom in the morning, he pushes me over to "my" side. He gets upset with me if I lie too close to the middle of the bed, too. I'm not doing any of these things intentionally, mind you, but last night he started asking me over and over why I insisted on taking up part of his space. He said that I've been doing it more and more recently. He said every marriage needs a little space and that I should be conscious of giving it to him. This is VERY painful for me and just destroyed the good feelings I've had about our marriage recently. Am I being ridiculous here? Sometimes, he's all over me like white on rice and wants to cuddle constantly. It's so confusing.
By the way, on a side note, I'm seeking counseling and my therapist thinks my husband is emotionally abusive.
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