Does this make me a bad mother?

Question

I have a 3 month old son, Riley

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He was born in on April fools, and I was a senior in highschool, and Then our senior trip was the first week in June, and it was already paid for; but I told my parents I wasn't going to go, and I was just going to stay with him because he was to younge. And my parents insisted I go on the trip, since it was paid for, and that I stayed in school, while pregnaunt, and graduated with honors. So I went. And I am still getting hasselled about how I am "a bad mother" for leaving him for a week, and its not like I went to party, cause I didn't even drink once! And I left him with my parents, not strangers, whats your outlook?

Answer 1

I wanted to add my "awwww, how cute"

and agree with everyone who thinks you are a good mother. You didn't just take off on the trip so you could get away from your responsibilities!  

I agree with everyone else on this... and what a sweet baby.

Answer 2

The only opinion you need to respect is your parents' and your own, and they are the ones who wanted you to go. It may be your last chancee in a long while to get away, and you needed it.

So just ignore everyone else, and follow your heart.

Answer 3

Who's calling you a bad mother? Of course you aren't.. Just ignore them.

Answer 4

it is FINE to leave your baby every once in a while.  don't listen to them!  many people are too overprotective and don't want to leave their children for thirty minutes...don't listen to them.  it's good for you and the baby to have some separation time from eachother.

Answer 5

Let me see if I have the facts here.

1. You worked hard in school to graduate on time and with honors ---even though you were pregnant.

2. You took responsibility for your actions and gave birth to a son---rather than aborting him.

3. Your parents obviously think highly of you

4. You initially chose to skip the trip but only relented because your parents insisted.

So, in my book you are brave, intelligent, responsible and respected by your parents.

You are also very, very, young and should have some fun.

You've chosen to sacrifice for your child, and he looks well loved. I see nothing "bad" here---only good. Lots and lots of good.

Take time for yourself when you can and ignore people who look down on you. Much older professional women go on trips without their kids all the time and no one would dare say a word to them.

Please take care of yourself and your lovely boy and hug your parents extra hard tonight because they sound pretty nifty too.

Best wishes...

Answer 6

They claim you are a bad mother because you went on senior trip?! Let me guess, none of these people have kids right? You most certainly are NOT a bad mother for doing that. That is just ridiculous.

Answer 7

Absoluteley not. Nothing wrong with a planned vacation, you deserve it for sticking with school. Congratulations, you sound like a great mom to me

Answer 8

I think that week probably was good for you. I would take a week away if I could. You left him with responsible people, so you should be proud of yourself. You also kept your baby, and didn't just give him away like so many young mothers do. The fact that you are even worried that you may be a bad mother tells me you are a good one.

Answer 9

no, it doesnt make you a BAD mother, as long as you missed him!  lol

Answer 10

You baby is so cute!

I don't think this makes you a bad mother at all.  It sounds like you are responsable enough not to drink. and people just like to take their anger out on people who are different. You are not a bad mother!  You needed to go to relax. I mean come on you just had a baby 3 months ago.  Tell people to give you a break.  They haven't squeezed out a 8 lb. you just need to relax and have a good time!

Answer 11

Who's harrassing you? No I don't think you're a bad mom. You graduated high school with honors and deserved to be with your friends. Being a parent doesn't mean you can't have any fun. It's nice that your parents are helpful and supportive.

Answer 12

Who says that you are a bad mom? s***w them you are still entitled to have a life even though you are a mother. So just ignore them obviously they dont have anything else to do but diss on you. s***w them!

From one single mom to another!

Good Luck!

Answer 13

I see nothing wrong with it.  Congrats for staying in school and graduating. You are not a bad parent for leaving him with your parents. I'm sure it was a nice break for you too. Don't let anyone tell you you are a bad parents for that. It was a week not a year. When you got home you took back over his care. Tell people to but out.

Answer 14

Nothing wrong at all with what you did. I would have done the same thing. Whoever is giving you ****, mushroom stamp them with an 18inch d**k rambone

Answer 15

First off, congratulations on being strong enough to have a baby AND graduate with honors. I know I couldn't do it! No, you are not a bad mother at all.

1. You found a trusting babysitter that you know will take care of your child.

2. You only left him for a week, for a SENIOR TRIP. It wasn't like you were off with your boyfriend drinking and doing drugs! You earned this trip!

3.  You had a baby and went through school, which honestly are the 2 hardest things in someones life. You did both of them at the same time, and did a wonderful job!

Don't call yourself a bad mother, you aren't! I know your young but I'm just going to suggest something to you, make your MySpace account private. It ust protects you so creepy people can't see you and your child. But honeslty, I know people that leave there children with hired nannys for a week to go have fun. You aren't bad at al!

Answer 16

No. Judging from what you have said, the only thing that would have made you a bad mother would have been if you had not even offered to stay. By you actually telling your parents that you would stay home, you've done a lot more than a "bad mother" would have done. Plus, you did leave him with your parents; I don't know how anybody can just say you're a bad mother. Plus, it's not as if other mothers don't leave their kids with their parents or babysitters so that the mothers can have a few days off anyways.

Answer 17

its alright as ur taking responsibilities and that your inner feelings are that you want to be with your son as much as possible!!! so u are not a bad mother in my book.

On the other hand you are a terrific mother for doing the best that you can foryourself and your son.

I guess your parents just wanted you to go since it was paid and they wanted to spend that extra time with their grandchild... they must be going crazy over him....

So who cares what others think... As long as you know that your doing the right thing. people will always be talking regardless if u do good or bad.

Answer 18

Don't beat yourself up. There are those that will say stuff like that, but you have to let it roll off your back. First, good for you for staying in school and graduating. You had already paid for it, and your parents insisted on you going. You left your son with people that you KNEW took care of him. While the first several months are very important to bond with your new baby, it was just a week. Had it been any longer, I wouldn't have gone, but just a week. Don't sweat it honey. Even brand new, just three weeks into it, mothers need breaks. I don't think that was a bad move at all. I would have done the same thing in your position if I knew my parents were watching my son. Good luck with your little one. He's precious.

Answer 19

i hardly think taking a planned vacation while leaving your baby with responsible people could make you a bad mother, i know it's hard but you just need to ignore the people that are saying you are, people will always judge your parenting, probably worse since you are young but if your baby is healthy and happy try not to let them get to you

Answer 20

No, you aren't a bad mother. You just need to learn from your mistakes. Be responsible for your baby, and learn how to refuse other proposals if you can't or don't have time. Also who hassled you for being a bad mother? Your parents or friends?

Answer 21

No, you are not a bad mother, your genuine concern for you and your baby tells me that. Keep being the good mother that you are and worry not what some immature person says about your personal affairs.

Answer 22

No, thats not a bad mom. Thats you taking a once in a lifetime opprotunity. Thats being smart. Hope you took plenty of photos! A bad mom is the one that leaves her kid in the care of someone else to go out and "have a good time" constantly. Thats a bad mom. Your not a bad mom for taking your graduation trip!

Answer 23

not at all its your parents they knpow how to look after children

Answer 24

You are not a bad mom.  Your parents offered to watch your precious baby.  What I don't understand is how people can judge you like that- you chose to finish high school, and even graduated with honors- CONGRATULATIONS- and hope that you really enjoyed your trip.  If I was a baby , I would be very proud to have someone like you be my mom. You chose life for your baby- and you also chose to raise him.  God bless you.

Answer 25

You're fine. You're a good mom to worry. :)

BTW... that is the cutest little baby boy!!

Answer 26

First off i applaud that you kept your child and graduated with honors. Going on a trip does not make you a bad mother. Married couples go on vacations and 2nd honeymoons all the time leaving children with relatives. Your parents understand that this would be your only senior trip, and an opportunity to go somewhere you may not have a chance to go again. You left your baby in a safe and caring environment and did nothing wrong. You are great mother ( I am sure)

Answer 27

stop listing to everyones negative thoughts. You deserved to go on the trip. Alot of pregnent moms will drop out of school and get a GED but you finished with honors. Congrats on all your accomplishments!!

Answer 28

No,you tried to stay home,you are obviously responsible...and you left him with your PARENTS.

oohhh!how irresponsible-leaving your son for only a week with you're great parents!yes,that was sarcastic...lol

and it was good you didn't drink.

so,you went for your senior year,and it wasn't like he was a newborn.he was already 2months old,which isn't old...but not a  newborn really.

Answer 29

Tell people to mind their own business.  You kept your child and are raising it--what more do they want.  Your parents told you to go and you went big deal.

Answer 30

Your parents are the ones that insisted that you go, and they took care of your  baby that week. No, you are not a bad mother. I would even bet that you constantly called your parents during the week to see how your baby was doing. Good for you for staying in school even after getting pregnant and having your baby!