Does this make me a bad person.?

Question

My daugther aria was placed in adoption of 07 i see her on weekends and have a great relationship with her a parents. My cousin has 2 children near her age and yeah there homelife isnt the greatest. I'm not saying she isnt a good mom but she's young just turn 21 her husband and she are getting a divorce. She went out with a guy 24 years older than herself living with him while she was still married then broke it off with him to live with a guy who she only knew for 4 days. Not only do the boys know there dad but they got to bond with the guy 24 years older than her and now her kids are bonding with this new guy who knows how long that will last. She's also expecting and its not this guys but the other dude but they deicded to keep it from him and her new bf are going to raise this baby. They are so in love getting married which is what she always says all the time seriously that line doesnt change. Am i just a real bad person thinking her kids really dont need to be around this.

Answer 1

no i agree with you that this is way to much turmoil in a young kids life.

In any kids life.

Forgive me, but it seems that she cares more for herself and having fun then she does for her children's emotional well-being is.

Maybe you she say something to her. Maybe she doesn't realize the emotional damage she could be doing to her children.

i hope that maybe this some how will work out. Good luck

Answer 2

sounds like my cousin courtney she had a kid when she was 18 and she bounces from one guy to another whoever has the most money and coolest place to live and is willing to let her mooch off of him and whatever. but i am in college, living with my fb's brother at the moment, looking for a job, and raising a 5 year old, my cousin and i are the same age, but i am nothing like her especially when it comes to men and respect and thought for myself and my son her daughter doesn't know who her father is and thinks every guy her mom dates is

Answer 3

Absolutely not ma'am.

Kids should have one father figure and that's it.  Of course, not everything is a fairytale ending.  S**t happens.  But to have one "dad" after another go in and out of their lives based on the whim of their mother, well that can really s***w a kid up.  

My advice to you, is to get her to settle down.  She was obviously too young to have kids in the first place, but she did.  And now she needs to concentrate on providing a good home, and a stable life for them, and not so much for herself.  Kids aren't baggage that she can just pick up and go with.  They're not puppies that are happy to see everyone.

Answer 4

No. You're not a bad person. It's awful that her kids are having to go through all this. Just be supportive of the kids and do whatever you can to help I guess.

Answer 5

alas, all children suffer to some extent for our short comings in our relationships.  its so sad but true.  wrong wrong wrong but i doubt talking to her will make a difference.  shes gonna tend to her affairs first before her children as you should recognize by now.  sorry for the kids though

Answer 6

your cousin has issues.