Does this married woman even respect herself?

Question

Since getting over the split with my exgirlfriend and not really that much in communication with my best friend who helped console me after the split I decided to start on Myspace.

I got talking to this lady on the forums there about how my friend has been avoiding me of late to keep me protected from things that are going on with her life, this lady whom I met on Myspace started saying how I should not worry and leave this girl - my friend. be.

As time moved on we started speaking on Instant Messenger about things in general thinking it would be okay to do so then last night she sent me some pictures of herself that I feel coming from a married lady is totally unacceptable, I didnt even know she had taken these pictures and I feel both angry and bad that she did.

For those who can't figure out what kind of pics, I mean the kind of pics that only her husband should see not some stranger she met of Myspace less than a month ago.

I've lost all respect for her now.

Answer 1

I see what you mean.  You kind of built a friendship, you knew she was married but you trusted her not to cross the line and just be a computer buddy.  I get it and I've been there, with a guy that I met online, we agreed on the same subject and started an online friendship, but it wasn't like I talked to him everyday, I didn't.  Then, came the pictures, he wasn't naked, but let's say, half-naked.  Not the sort of pictures a married guy should be sending some woman over the internet.  He was in the marines and according to him lived in the same city as I did, in military family housing.  Sad. Very sad.  

I blocked him and haven't talked to him since.  I realized he was looking for something more than just a buddy relationship.

Answer 2

You sound like such a decent guy. Good on you for not being lured in.

Sadly, it's all too common in online interaction these days for suggestive or outright explicit pics to be traded. It's often expected.

I completely agree with you that it was highly inappropriate for your online friend to send those pictures to you, not only because she's married and that's an utterly disrespectful way for a married woman to interact with another man, but also because, as you point out, you were someone she just met on Myspace less than a month ago! It speaks volumes about her character. No, she can't possibly respect herself, nor does she have the proper respect for you, to do something like that.

I know how you feel. I was very badly hurt by an online friend once, who couldn't accept the boundaries that our relationship needed to have. As disgusted as I am by what he did in the end, which also involved photos, I still feel a sense of loss for the friendship we once shared prior to it going so badly wrong. It leaves you feeling, as you put it, like nothing more than 'meat' to them. It's so disappointing, and it hurts.

So many men would have been lured in by that though. In fact I'm sure SHE assumed the sending of intimate photos would enhance her appeal to you! You must have excellent values to be disgusted by it, and I think you're incredibly strong.

Answer 3

Hey, somebody stole my name...I don't think it's that she doesn't have respect for herself, but if she is actually the one sending you pictures and not just an ex of hers trying to mess up her life, she definitely doesn't have any respect for her marriage. You are right to feel disgusted. Tell her how you feel and stop communicating with her.  

Answer 4

So move on.  Why are you getting so attached to people in a month anyway?  Feeling needy?  Delete her from your page & get over it.  She's a trampy chick.  

Answer 5

i agree. it's unacceptable and you should block all contact from her.

Answer 6

big deal she sent naked pictures its not like she $ucked you off quite being a lame and grow $um ball$

Answer 7

Leave that woman alone lol.

Distant action means I am not that into you or I am cheating.

Answer 8

No she does not respect herself.  Maybe you should delete her or report her to Tom.  She's a MySpace harlet.  That type of stuff happens all the time on there.  It really is an epidemic.

Answer 9

You don't know what is going on in her life. She might be feeling really insecure and this is her way of making herself "s**y". Is it appropraite? No. But try not to judge others. Someday you will do something you will look back at and say..STUPID!

If you lost respect for her, leave it be..stop talking to her....but try not to judge.

Answer 10

She probley meets alot of men over the net and your just one of many, she gets a kick out of sending pics of herself to other random people and gets a kick out of them enjoying them and giving her feedback - desperate housewife syndrome - my husband has just been busted for this type of behaviour, some people just dont respect marriage... I think GOOD ON YOU for losing respect for her, she sounds like a complete loser and trust me karma will get her...her poor husband.