Does this mean I am a sociopath?

Question

OK, I've hit what most people would call a "rough patch" in my life. My mom who I was very close to died of cancer in May. I got into a fist fight with my stepdad after the funeral and have cut him completely out of my life. My girlfriend of five years and the love of my life just moved because she "wants to see the world." Also, I am completely estranged from all of my family. I don't see them or talk to them. The weird thing is...none of this bothers me. Over the last 4 months, I've lost all of the relationships that most people hold to be the most important in life and I am completely unaffected. Is that wrong?

Answer 1

"Rough Patch" doesn't start to describe what you are going through.  My heart goes out to you, friend - things are coming down on you hard and fast.  

I went through some of what you are experiencing - my mom died of cancer when I was 21 and I had a very hard time with my father AND my girlfriend at the time.  I ended up being estranged from my father (and his new girlfriend, years later) I broke up with my girlfriend, I felt angry, alienated, cut-off, and worse, insulated.  None of it bothered me, either.

You are not a sociopath.  You are reacting to some huge events in your life and your brain is insulating you from pain in whatever way it can.  Not caring, or being unaffected, is a defense mechanism - you are tough, you can deal, you are strong.  The pain that you feel inside is being masked, but it is that pain that is asking the question you posted here.  

Everyone is different.  Some people seek therapy - I dealt with my issues by buying a bicycle, believe it or not.  I went with a friend (a girl, BTW) who got so caught up in my energy that she bought one too - we started riding together and I fell in love with her.  I was extremely fortunate that she did not return my love, but offered friendship instead; I found the meaning of true human relationships and was able to work through all of my issues.  It took years, but I reconciled with my dad and married my ex-girlfriend and lived happily ever after.

It wasn't easy - it never is.  You are in a lot of pain and you need to reach out to yourself - find what motivates YOU and do it - become obsessed but be careful not to cut yourself off.  

Maybe therapy or a support group would work for you, maybe not.  Stay true to yourself and work it -

Again, you are not a sociopath, you are not abnormal; you have been hit hard with a bunch of c**p that really, really sucks and you are dealing as best you can.  Stay with it.  

Answer 2

it means u are human like the rest of us. went thru the same after my dad died when i was just 18. look at me now. i am a better person that i could have ever been if i remained where i was. at the time it tore me up because i wanted to belong to my fam and step fam. but i was not in their best interest. i was the only one who was a blood relative at the funeral. i care about them as much as what they are doing and nothing more. i do not invlve myself. I want to see if they will get what they deserve, on natural account of things. good things come to those who do good. eventually the list will come up.         no man. u are ok to feel. but dont go loco. balance ur energy. get rid of the bad on a regular basis with what u like doing to tire urself out. running, working, whatever....   do make new friendships and relationships. make them meaningful ones. u have to have memories for later in life for ur grandkids.    grow in peace friend

Answer 3

no there could be other answers than you are a sociopath. you said you really cared for your girlfriend at some point, maybe that relationship just fizzled out its natural end for some reason You also said you loved your mom, i think you should have more belief in yourself and be open to new friendships and relationships

Answer 4

looks like you have problems  

Answer 5

No feelings are ever "wrong," except hate. They are always accurate.

You are not a sociopath.  They are those who can do wrong and feel no guilt or pity for their victims.

Answer 6

I don't think you are a sociopath. Sociopath is a person who feels no remorse for anybody, or living things. Sociopath are those who preys on the innocent and use extreme means for their own gains. What you are feeling is sense of grief. Unfortunate events have had happened in your life and it is apparent that you are stuck and having a difficult time getting yourself out of these feelings of lost and loneliness. If you continue to find yourself in this position, I'd suggest you consult to professional counseling that deals with grief issue and/or depression. Times heal all wounds...