Does this mean my husband (soon to be ex) was cheating?

Question

Before I seperated myself from him, he grew distant towards me every day. The week I left he did not want to even touch me, only give me a smirk. He is have not been intimate for a while. For example, once every month or nthg at all. No hug or sensual kiss, only peck on the lips before work or nthg at all. Only want to debate with me as a means for communication. As mths went on, he went from debates to starting arguements for no reason just b/c he wanted me out. When I left, he was not home. I paced my clothes and never went back. He did not call until 5 days later. The next time he called was b/c he wanted me to pay the bills and to tell me he thot the marriage was a mistake. He married me for the wrong reasons, it was lust and not love. He even told my father this stupidness. He told me he could not treat me like a husband should. He admitted he didnt love me and did nt want me loving him either. He treated me bad, but never put his hands on me. He was a very selfish man, never cared about my well being. Ex. allowed another man (waiter) degrade me at a restaurant. Did nt asist me when I had car troubles. Do u think it is another woman?

Answer 1

Sweety, don't even worry if there is another woman. Get a grip on yourself, forget about the loser and move on. Don't even waste your energy wondering if there is another woman. There are alot of fishes in the sea and I am sure that you can find someone who will treat you better and give you the love and support that you need. Don't worry about it and don't loose any sleep over it because it obviously doesn't seen to be bothering him. And you know that most of the time when we woman decide to move on and start living again, they usually come back. And most of the time we are over it.. So honey get over it and move on. You will be happy that you did. It might take time, but time heals all wounds!!

Answer 2

It doesn't even matter if there is another woman really.....your going to be so much better off without him. Good Luck.

Answer 3

could be another woman or a man!

Answer 4

I don't think it matters WHAT is was..just be glad it's over, and put it all behind you!

Answer 5

Nothing you've said makes me think there is another woman.  When something goes wrong, in a way it seems easier if there is an obvious reason, ie. another woman... but it seems to me that you just grew distant, lost the flair and didn't know how, or didn't care to get it back.

He could just as likely think that you have another man!  You left without warning and didn't call... I think he's probably talking to his friends, wondering who you ran off with.  We all say mean things when we are hurt and bitter, the key is to talk it through together, don't fight.

All the best to you and also to him.

Answer 6

I don't think that he is cheating, I just think that he doesn't want to be with you anymore.  

Answer 7

maybe it is. it has to be. he might not have gotten together with her. maybe he just has his eyes on someone and this allowed him to see that he didn't truly love you. though it may hurt, be grateful that he's being somewhat honest and leave. don't yell or fight or beg to stay. no matter the reason for his deciding the marriage was a mistake... he has decided it and you must accept it. the next decision is yours.  

Answer 8

Could be another woman - could be he just doesn't love you. Most likely it's just that he's a garden variety jerk - not worth any more of your time than any other snake in the garden. It's tough to end a marriage - even one that was not going well - but sometimes you just have to be glad it's over & you  survived. This seems to be one of those times. Move on without looking back. There's bound to be someone better up ahead.

Answer 9

It does not indicate another women at all.

It sounds like he simply fell out of love with you.

It is very possible that he started to resent being married and took it out on you which is why he treated to bad. He probably also did not like the inconvenience of being married to someone he did not love.

I see nothing in your story to indicate he was cheating.

Answer 10

Either that or he just married you for all the wrong reasons like he said. He may have found something in another woman that he didnt see in you. That probably turned him on to her so he started looking for comfort in her and confided in her as a friend then it lead to something more. Who knows. Maybe you should ask him and see what he tells you.

Answer 11

It sounds like he was being honest w/you when he said he didn't love you otherwise he would have never allowed someone to degrade you and he would've helped when you needed it.  You need to move on and find a man that TRULY loves you for the special woman that you are and let this loser go.  DON'T PAY ANY MORE BILLS  

Answer 12

of course its another woman, when they fall for someone else, they begin to pick fights, and question why they even married u in the first place.they begin to disconnect, and resent doing anything for u anymore, because they are only thinking of leaving, and don't want to be with u in the first place.they do become very selfish, and think of nothing but the other woman and what she wants. it hurts like heck, but this is exactly how they act when they want out.

Answer 13

None of us are psychic, so who knows.

But if he feels like that, be glad you get a chance to find someone who will love you that you can share your life with....good riddens to a bad relationship. Think about the better life you'll have without him.

Answer 14

Not necessarily.

He may simply be a man who knows himself well and wants to do what he's made up his mind to do.

Many women leave their partners, boyfriends or husbands due to lack of love, and don't become involved with others beforehand.  It's not as common for men, but it happens just the same.

Best wishes.

Answer 15

If not it he probably will be.  But don't look for a reason other than the one that is between you two.  It is not that the other woman has an evil spell on him but that he has decided that a relationship with you is not what he wants.  Coming together is easy, it is the separations that are tough.  Why? Because it goes against the fairy tales we grew up with.  Relationships don't always go on forever and people's feelings change at different stages in their life. It sucks but the best thing to do is to make this transition in your life as easy as possible.  As far as his behavior, he is telling you by actions and word how he feels.    Just gather yourself together and make a plan for your life.  

Answer 16

it sounds to me it was another woman.

you are too good for him so don't worry about it!  i know it's hard, but if you don't show him that you are hurt or if you let him know that you are doing better without him, he will realize what he lost (in most case scenarios anyways lol)