Does this mother love her child in need?

Question

She tells the child to eat when she doesn't eat. She tries to take her to drum & karate lessons. She watches television with her. She does laundry, wash dishes, & other stuff a mother does on a daily basis. But when the child's in desperate need & just cries from bottling things up & for being in pain, the mother just yells at her to pay attention, tell the child that she's ill from thyroid disease/stroke problems & to fix her own problems or go tell dad, & to stop giving the family a hard time. Dad just yells at her for the medical bills & calls her something harsh. The child can't go to sleep but just lay there on her bed crying. The child really needs help. She can't relax when she wants to. She can't cry when she needs to. She can't go to sleep when she wants do.

Answer 1

It sounds like they love her but are stressed. Parents are people too, they are in no way perfect.

Also, a teen is NOT a child.

Answer 2

Life is hard, and everyone has problems. Dealing with a teenager isn't easy on top of financial troubles by the sound of it.

I hope this girl has some good friends that she can share her troubles with. That will really help to talk things over and get things off her chest. If there are no friends, encourage her to join a youth group or even to go to a guidance counsellor at school.

Some families just have a lot of trouble, but things usually iron themselves out through time and patience.  

Answer 3

Right now, this child is in desperate need of somebody to talk to. Perhaps just crank up some music and maybe that will relax you. Or just write down your feelings...and maybe...see if you could get a physiologist.

Hope the child get the help she needs.

:)

Answer 4

The mother loves the child but it may not be in the right way. It seems like she is more of a "friend" than a mother. A mothers' basic responsibility is to provide the necessities. Although the laundry and other chores is important, medical care is more important. A parent is 'required' to provide medical treatment for a child under 18 I would believe. I could be wrong.

She loves her child but also might be stressed out from the health problems (no one wants a sick kid) and the bills. The dad has no right to yell though. The child has no control over it.

Are you this child? :(  

Answer 5

Puberty (being a teenager) is a difficult time because as bodies change and hormones surge, emotions seem to rage.  That means that many teenagers (particularly girls) seem to cry and get upset very easily and very often.  Adults realize that the emotions aren't really as necessary as it seems to the teenager and often react with less concern than the teen would like.

This girl (who is not a child, though she is her parents' child) needs to realize that she is growing up, that she is suffering from psychological and emotional growing pains (as a result of puberty) and that the world doesn't revolve around her.  There are better ways to get attention from her parents than to cry (and basically, it sounds like, have a tantrum).  Her parents are doing a lot for her.  She needs to turn around and do things for the parents.  Why is the mother doing wash for her?  A teen should be doing her own wash, should be helping with the dishes, should be helping with the housework.  

If things are totally out of control (emotionally), then this teen should go to a school counselor and tell someone.