Does this sound too idealistic for a relationship?

Question

I had relationships before and i didn't feel really that happy in them, they were okay. Now after some time and self reflection i may be ready to connect with someone again.

I fully would love to find someone that i feel can make me feel i exist, cared for, like i matter to them, and that i'm a priority in their life. Someone that has same goals and values as me so i can build a life and perhaps even business with (or some sort of mentor). He does not need to be someone i marry as i don't plan to have kids now (maybe never). And ofcourse it's a give and take, I would give back that in return.

Like even if he's never going to marry me but he's a good long term friend with benefits who's also an excellent mentor, sees me regularly, and we understand each other, that's good too.

Answer 1

Your ideal sounds very reasonable. You have well-established boundaries, which is great. Your description sounds exactly like what every healthy relationship should be (including flexibility with marriage decisions), and many relationships just like it already exist and thrive. Just make sure your expectations don't become too rigid to the point of potentially excluding many good men.

Answer 2

No, this is a description of a truly healthy relationship.

I really hope you find this some day.

Answer 3

It sounds like a wonderful blueprint for a relationship. I might quibble a little bit over your language -- no one can "make us" feel anything -- we get to choose our responses and take charge of our emotions.

Good luck!