Does you husband make you read books or watch videos on how to be a good wife?

Question

I know every now and then my husband will bring home a book he saw at the store he wants me to read. At first it offended me b/c I thought I knew all about being a good wife but actually its become interesting and I do learn new stuff. I just wanted to see how common this was.

Answer 1

MAKE YOU? sounds like a control freak.

Answer 2

My husband doesn't make me do anything.

Answer 3

I buy my husband books and when he brings some home we have fun. He just wants to have things in common.  Makes good dinner conversation.

Answer 4

Yes, well I think Mr. Perfect needs a tip or two about how to be the perfect husband. Buy him a few books and highlight the areas that you want him to be better about. The road goes both ways. I think he is a wimp. Most husbands actually have conversations with their wife about  things they would like in their marriage and wives do the same thing.

Answer 5

Mine knows better than that.  I am a wonderful fiance and soon to be wife so that would be utterly insulting to me.  Let him work on himself and stop pointing the finger at you that you are wrong.

Answer 6

He's actually communicating to you in an almost direct way that you are not meeting his expectations...There is nothing wrong with that...There is also nothing wrong for you to do the same if he is not meeting your expectations...What's good for him is good for you too...Take Care

Answer 7

Buy him a few books on "what women like" and "how to become a better lover." LOL

Answer 8

My husband has never MADE me do anything - and I've never made him do anything. IF there is something either of us wants the other to change or do differently we would sit down and actually talk - communicate face to face - about our issues or concerns. If he has a problem, he can some to me & we will talk it out  together - and most likely reach a compromise. But, if you're ok with this, the whatever - to each his own, I guess!

Answer 9

     Sorry,love, but personally I think he's an arrogant S.O.B.  If you buy books like that, that's one thing, but it's not for him to do so.  Why don't you go out and buy a book on how to be a good husband?  That might cure him!

Good luck

Mike B

Answer 10

I'm not married but if my boyfriend brought home books on how to be a good girlfriend I'll tell him where to get off. That or find him a book on how to be a good boyfriend!

Answer 11

while it may not be the most appropriate way to communicate, I think FrenchCan007 G  is probably right.  There may something in the book that he wants to tell you, but doesn't want to have to tell you.

Kind of like how some women want their husbands to call them from work or bring them flowers for no reason.  They really enjoy it, but if they have to ask you for it or remind you of it directly, it is not the same.   I think you should read the book, but you decide which parts of it you want to follow (if any).  Also since he opened the door, you should definately take advantage and give him a book about being a better husband or lover or whatever you want him to do more of around the house.  

Answer 12

i don't  know much but every good woman will be a good wife and a good mother.

If a man think he need to have his wife to read a book how to be a good wife. I think he think he just inventing a robot so now he have to programing it to work.

well, i am divorced, if your husband have an extra  girl robot and want to get rit off i am will to buy from him. I am willing to give it a try. if it work out well i will marred it after you two can be a broom and pride maid. lol

Well girl ........just kick back and laugh a little, you have a good day

Answer 13

lol....he'd have to find another woman.  

Answer 14

It shoud offend you. He is being unreasonable. He obviously wants a Stepford Wife, tell him to build a robot. It is not common at all. He sounds very controlling. Be yourself, don't change for anyone.  

Answer 15

I just read today about some coaching techniques. It said to tell people how to do if that person is willing to listen and follow your guidance. But let them read by themselves if they are kind of people who believe themselves. Your husband might just use that technique with you.

I love reading. I would be grad if I were you. Buying him self-development like others suggested is a good idea too!

Answer 16

I don't think its necessarily a bad thing.  The more knowledge you have regardless of the source, the better at anything you will be.  

I'm not sure of his intentions thats something you have to judge, I mean he doesn't come home and throw them at you?  So assuming thats not the way it goes down, its probably a gentle way of helping you!  

Answer 17

My husband doesn't make me do anything.  He doesn't bring home books for me, if I want something I go and get it to read on my own!!