Does your 6 or 7 yr old kid do this?

Question

I dont know if my son is getting too attach to me or is this normal?

He tells me everyday im the best girl in the whole world i know it sounds so cute but i sometimes want him to be independent. Sometimes at night he wants me to sing him lullaby and since his dad works graveyard my son sleeps w me on the same bed. He always wants me to cuddle him if i dont he wont fall asleep. He tells me everyday he will do this for me etc.. Its really nice that he's being affectionate but I also want him to grow. It seems like he doesnt want to grow. He even told me that he doesnt want to get older bec then he has to leave. I dont know where he gets this idea..

Or should I just enjoy the moment because once he gets older it wouldnt be the same??

Answer 1

This sounds like my wife's relationship with our six-year-old.  He sometimes tells her he is never going to live with her forever, and that when he goes to college she will have to come with him.  Enjoy it while it lasts.

Answer 2

Enjoy the moment.

He won't always be like that.

They go through stages.

Answer 3

I have a 7 year old stepson, and he's affectionate too, but very independent.

Maybe telling your son that you will always love him, and support him will help?.  Ask him about why he acts like he does (you might pick up on insecurity issues, or a stage of development that he hasn't properly completed yet that may be holding him back, and needs addressing).

If this behaviour is something you enjoy him doing, then enjoy it.  If not, address it, be firm, and strong, and encourage him to move past whatever is motivating him to behave this way.

(By the way, to the person who got stuck on Freudian theory, you are looking for the "Oedipus complex" - supposedly, a boys' psychosexual attraction to his mother).

cheers :)

Answer 4

My kid does she only watches the movie then she gets in her bed

From ezza

Answer 5

If your family situation is ok there s no need to worry

Answer 6

My son wants to marry me.  My sweet little bugger.  :)  

My son won't fall asleep unless I lay with him while he dozes off.  I'm cherishing every little moment he wants to be my pal......before he wants to spit on me when he's a teenager.

LOL!

Answer 7

is he your only child?  are you pregnant at the moment?

is he happy and content at school?  Has there been a bereavement in the family or any upset? His behaviour may be  an indication of his being scared, not wanting to grow up and to remain your little baby.  My son was like this when i was pregant with his brother and he was starting school.  he didnt eat because he didnt want to grow up because i wouldnt love him as he wasnt my baby anymore and i would have a new baby instead.  poor thing!  We worked through it.

Providing there is no underlying problem - just enjoy it for what it is, some kids are more affectionate than others.  Grab it whilst you can!

Answer 8

Enjoy it while it lasts. He may not always want you around when he gets older.

Answer 9

enjoy the moment....

Answer 10

i'm going through the same situation my son is almost six years old and he is my only child , i have been told that, this is normal, even he is telling me sometimes that's when he grow up he wants to marry me because i'm the most beautiful girl in the world, at get scared at the begining when i heard him saying that but after i asked specialist including other mother's and doctors all they said that this is normal

so enjoy your child's love as much as you can because u may miss this moments later when he get older

Answer 11

read up on freud, it's normal.  his theory is that boys are sexually attracted to their mother and girls are sexually attracted to their dads.  it's an unconscious attraction, there are specific names for them, but i don't remember them.  something like electra complex and o-something.

Answer 12

I think he has separation anxiety as I used to want to sleep near my mum when I was his age too and as it turns out I have anxiety issues. If it doesn't stop by about the time his 9 see a paediatrician but for now, yes, enjoy his youth while it's still there!!!

Hope this helps!!!

xx

Answer 13

ya true,u should enjoy the moments bcoz once he gets older u wil miss all..

my sister s daughter ,,,she doesnt  want share her mother wen talks on ph with any friends she wants all attraction of mother all time,somtime my sis gets irritate she all time mama listen mama all time she wants mama listens her,my sis has son also he is younger then daughter.dr said no problem urs daughter geineus she wants 2 tell u alot....so dnt worry urs son will b fine its just habbits of his age,,,good luck

Answer 14

yeah, this genius reading Freud just killed me. i guess if u can't comprehend smth u better not read it. anyway, he meant Oedipus complex - they call it cos of the myth when Oedipus fell in love with his mother. but this according to grandpa Freud happens when kids re 3-4 years old. then it should pass by itself. yours seem indeed not wanting to grow up. maybe u should consult PROFESSIONAL with a degree in psychology, not those self-educated retards

Answer 15

Well it is a little of both. I have a 6 yr old son who is very attached to me, yet very independant. It was just him and I for the first 3 years of him life and then only for the last 2 years has my boyfriend lived with us.

The only issue I see really is that he is still sleeping with you. Wanting to be mommys little man is VERY normal at this age, he is showing you that he can be a man and such...

Answer 16

mmm... enjoy it while it lasts, because, once u start to judge what music he listens to or like go agaisnt his decisions... its gonna b a tough road from there

Answer 17

My son calls me cutie pie yet he is very independent.  I just enjoy it as I know he'll be telling me he hates me before too long!  I've told him he's too old for mummy's bed now though as this used to be his Saturday night treat for a dry bed during the week.

Answer 18

Eat it up while you can.  I miss the days when my son wanted me so much that it drove me nuts.  He was my buddy (still is, but not like it use to be).  He is 13 and obviously no longer cuddles with me, runs to me to tell me how much he loves me .  I can't tell you how much I miss that.  But I have grown with my son and our bond is still strong.  Now instead of cuddling, we share a couch.  We pick nights when we play cards together, play games on the computer, or just sit and catch up on things.

Now instead of me being his mommy, I am his mom.  When they get older they want you, just not like they use to and it's natural.  I would expect your son to pretty much start honing his own skills on being independent within the next couple of years.

Answer 19

when he hits 11 or 12 you are gonna wish that he even says anything to you. he'll be too busy fighting his hormones and dealing with other emotions. seems to me that he needs his dad to put him to sleep instead of you. children will actually listen to the tough suggestion of their fathers and take it. they also feel more safe if they have their father close by. with out their father they feel unsafe so they come to you. its something that is natural. with you they feel and know you will nurture them no matter what.

Answer 20

I have a 5 year old girl going on 6. She tells me she is going to live with me forever and even asks to sleep with me and make daddy sleep on the couch. She was even kicked out of kindergarten last sept for crying hysterically for 2 weeks.

I can only say he just loves you soo much. I know she does and doesn't wanna leave me at all!!! Scares me sometimes but I think they grow out of it. My brother was in love with my mom. I even remember him telling her he had the hots for her!!! She got grossed out but he didn't realize what it really meant. He is still close wit my mom and talks to her about things he wont tell anybody else...BUT he is engaged and out of the house,  LOL...not still at home obsessing over her!! LOL! Hope that helps

Answer 21

no they did not but they never sleep in my bed.put  your son to  sleep in his bed.this is not good.sorry.

Answer 22

I dont think kids and parents should share a bed. In my opinion that makes clingy kids. I can not have cling ons lol. I think it sounds sweet and I am sure he will grow out of it once he moves to his own bed.

Answer 23

This is absolutely normal!

My 8 year old son does this...although my husband does not work thirds, my son comes into my bedroom before its time for him to get up for school, and we watch spiderman together....this is one of the highlights of his day!

You cannot love your children enough.....enjoy that he wants to be with you and enjoy that he comments you!

You have a wonderful son!

My daughter is very blunt..and tells me all the time my stomach is SO big (I'm 9 months pregnant) and my son quickly says "mom, no its not, you are the most beautiful mom ever"

Hug, love, cuddle, comment, and take comments from your children! And enjoy that they don't want to grow up because they don't want to leave!!!!! It won't always be that way!

And this is confirmation that your love in mommying is working!

Answer 24

My youngest son acts similar to this, but he is 7 and now instead of planning to marry me like when he was 6, he plans to marry someone else and have a really big house with extra rooms for me.   Lately he has been talking about all of the things that I do with him that he is going to do with his kids when he grows up; reading together, game night, going to the park, favorite dinners.  I take it as a compliment. The greatest compliment I have ever received, in fact.  I don't think you should worry, the adoring relationship that your son has with you should evolve as he grows.  If it doesn't evolve over time, then you can start to worry.  Until then, enjoy the compliment.