Does your baby every make you upset?

Question

I have a 3 month old and sometimes she cries late at night for a long period..it is not colic she is just tired and hard to console..she fights going to sleep...I never get mad or angry..it's more like upset because I can't make her feel better..I have to set her down in her swing for a minute or two and take a breather before I start crying...I never let her cry it out..does this happen to anyone else?

Answer 1

Yes all my kids did this & at first I thought it was just me, but what you need to do is let her cry a little and don't pick her up.  She know's you will do it and that what's she wants.  Then when you get upset it makes her even more upset.  I bought a music machine that connects to the side of her cot & plays music, when she gets upset I change her bum, give her a  bottle and then put her music on. Sometimes it only takes 3 minutes then she is fast asleep.  What you should do it try something like this even if you get a calming CD and put that on for her or the radio.  Then if she is still crying after 5 minutes pick her up and settle her down and do it all over again.  She will eventually realise that mum wont pick me up all the tip and settle back down to sleep.  She may also be teething so try giving her some teething tablets that are all natural and will also calm her down.  Hope this helps and it does get better.

Answer 2

Oh yea, it's stressful when you know your baby is tired and just won't go to sleep. try swaddling. we did that with our second until she was like 5-6 months. only way to get her to quit kicking her feet and sleep. I always unwrapped her a little when she was out though so she could move around if she wanted. worked like a charm. its great that you know to put her down and take a breather. there will be times when she makes u mad or upset, its normal, just remember put her down in a safe spot and step away for a few mins!  

Answer 3

Oh yessss!  Do I hear you there or what.  Teehee.

My son is almost 6 months old and he still cries non-stop.  Sometimes nothing makes him happy and it upsets me so much.  I can't stand it when he cries non-stop.  Puts my emotions into turmoil and I get so stressed out.  Sometimes I cry, but usually I hold it in.  Which is probably not good.

I usually don't let my son cry it out.  Makes me feel like such a bad Mommy.  I just be the one to help him stop, but I just can't get him to.  So, I understand completely.  It will get better though.  :)

Answer 4

I'm not sure if this is your first baby, but if it is, this is normal.  My first baby cried non-stop for the first 4 months, well,,maybe not non-stop, but that's what it felt like to me.  I would get so upset my ears would start ringing and i would have to put her in the crib, close her door, sit in the hall and cry, then, after about 1 minute, go get her and try again.  I finally realized she could sense that I was upset, and when I learned to relax, so did she.  This was surely not an easy battle for me,,,or her.

Answer 5

I'm not a mom, but I have seen on Tyra Banks talk show once, where she had some baby experts on her show one time. And one of them was talking about setting up a routine for the baby. Like bath her at a certain time, feed her and story time. Even remove any really distracting toys from her crib. I'm not sure how effective that is for a 3 month old but you could try it though. Oh and I think another website they suggested was www.momlogic.com, should have some more tips and other things on there that could help.

Answer 6

i have an 8 month old who loves to climb all over my husband and i before finally lling asleep at my breast....the past two night she has woken up at 3 am to play and she wont go back to sleep...no matter how dark or how quiet the room is....i know exactly how feel...but u know they are babies its in there nature to cry and make us cry every now and then, if you have someone that can help you with baby at night take advantage of them! calm down leave the room and come back, sometimes the baby can actually sense your stress.  

Answer 7

there are times that i lay in bed.. baby asleep.. and no noise and i still here her crying. she dont cry that much she just whines alot.. and she always loses her passie and i get so frustrated but till the other day ive never been mad at my daughter.. the other day i hadnt slept but 5 hours in two days and she would not sleep that was the first time in 6 months that i had gotten mad at her.. its normal.. my mother told me there will be times where i would just wanna throw her out the window.. but no matter what.. no matter the madness she drives you to.. you will always love your kid.  

Answer 8

It happens to even babysitters. Taking a moment to get a breather is the best possible thing you can do for yourself. Kudos for knowing your limits! There are some not so good parents that get frustrated and then shake their babies and it's because they do not know their own limits.

Yes babies make you upset, wait until she is 3 and climbing and getting into things, she'll really make you upset then :)

Answer 9

my daughter is 12mos, and she has done this twice. its really hard when it happens. i found myself pleading with her to go to sleep before the tears came to me. i think if a mother deals with it all it time they find it that little bit easier and can say 'well, she has never done this for over an hour' and they can put a timescale on it, or has tricks to settle baby. but when it hardly happens, i didnt know what to do, i didnt have a clue what was wrong with her as she was generally a very content baby.

Answer 10

I know how you feel, it seems like everything you do wont work and then  you think you are doing something wrong and we start crying...I been there...but give it a little time it will get better my baby is now good she is 6 months, we just need to learn how to read our babies...