Does your family do this too?

Question

My family is in Oregon and i'm in Pennsylvania, i'm currently 18, happily engaged,and 5 months pregnant (20w2d). My family know's i'm pregnant and they know the due date (nov 25-29) They always tell me they have stuff to send me for the baby and once they get the chance something always comes up and they said they didn't send it or they can't send it. I'm currently unemployed and have an interview tomarrow at a grocery store (Giant), and they are acting like i got the job. But My fiance and i live togather at his parents house, we pay them $400 a month, and we owe $1090.50 on our bed from rent a center,and my fiance owe's $850 on an old credit card. If i get this job And if i go full-time (temp) and then come back after i have the baby, our bills will be paid off, But the thing is My fiance's family has given us almost everything and they are the best, but the things my family say's their going to send me are things i/baby need and they are expensive stuff.

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Answer 1

You just have to talk to them and ask them.

"I really appreciate that you wanted to send a few things for the baby. For some reason it never got here. I'm concerned that it got lost in the mail. When did you send it?"

This puts them not on the defensive but you as a curious person. If they forgot but still want to they will. If they don't have $, they might say that. You should know if they can afford to send anything or not.

It's nice to get help, but you know you can't rely on those who don't follow through consistently.

Good luck and take care.

Answer 2

maybe they are not happy with the situation..talk to them and see what the problem is. If they don't want to help, tell them to be straight up..and manage on your own.goodluck and congratulations :)

Answer 3

I'm afraid we all have family that say one thing and do another.  You are away from your family and don't feel the support you need or deserve.

Your family may have problems of their own to deal with, so don't take it too personally.  Feel grateful that your fiance's family is stepping up to help.  Just for information, it is and will always be on you to keep it all together.  Your job is about to get even more difficult.  Good luck