Does your husband take vacations without you?

Question

Every year my husband takes an annual sibling weekend - usually thurs, fri, sat and sun. this year they want to go to Germany??? We just got married a year ago and just had our first baby (1 month old). do you think he should be taking annual trips without us? he says "it's only for a weekend"

Answer 1

My dad and husband go up north hunting each year, a trip that can last about two weeks. I don't mind, in fact I enjoy the time I have to myself even though I miss them.

However if my husband were going overseas on a fun vacation with friends without me, that would make it different. I would not like that, and I would tell him so.

Answer 2

every year the men in my family pack up and head up north for 9 days of hunting drinkink and looking at p**n,this tradition makes me sick and it just so happens to fall on thanksgiving  which makes it worse. i have spent every thanksgiving day alone for the past 18 years  i used to complain and  start arguments over it now i plan something fun for my self to do  you are going to have to find a way to deal with it because with or without in his world he is going to go  good luck

Answer 3

For my opinion no. since your first child is only 1 mth old.He should spent more time with you and the family.is always nice  that he brings you all for a vacation.Im married too and i don't really like the idea of my hubby going vacation without me is not that i don't trust him but i think is not fair that im left alone n his enjoying himself out there .But i won't mind if he goes outing with his buddies  (i mean for a couple of hours)  

Answer 4

Sometimes spouses take serarate vacations - this is most common with annual trips - I have taken one every year at the same time for years without complaints from my wife (no kids, however!), and several coworkers take an annual trip with friends, familiy, etc. It provides a chance to see and catch up with old friends that live far apart.

Since this seems to be an established trip, I wouldn't say it is a big deal. However, the trip being overseas adds a few issues. I know if I went on my annual fishing trip in Germany instead of Florida, my wife would be upset, since she would like to go, and she definately wouldn't appreciate me leaving her with a newborn as I jaunted accross the Atlantic.

I would take some time to talk to your husband - perhaps he could forgo this year's trip in light of the new addition to the family. if he won;t do that, have him talk to his siblings and see if they can stay stateside, maybe go to Germany next year, when it is more convenient.