Does your love for your first born differ from the love for your other children?

Question

I only have one child right now and I am soo close to her. SHe is my world! I am just wondering, will I feel this way with all my children or will she always mean a little more since she was my first? I know all moms say they love their children equally but is there something extra special about your first?

Answer 1

I remember being worried before I had our second child.  How could I possibly love the second as much as this little boy who has taken over my life?  I've heard other parents wonder the same thing.  

But, after the second gets there, you really do love the next one as much as the first.  There are a lot of things different about each child.  For me, I stress about the second one less because I know a lot more than I did with my first one.  I worry about different things with each one.  I understand one better than the other.  But, the love for both is the same.

Answer 2

i love them all! i thought the same way .  but you love them all the same :)

Answer 3

I always wondered that and now I have two kids and I love them both the same and for different things.  They both are so different and so much alike and yet you still love them the same.  There is a special thing about your first child, but your first child helps you learn more on how to take care of the next one and shows you how much love you have to give to another :).

Answer 4

Only if you are all wrong inside

Answer 5

I think that you love all children equally (in quantity or quality) but in different ways that apply to that child.  For example, my first wants to be held or cuddled a lot, and the second would rather not be held, so The love I express to the second is more in words and actions, while the love for my first is in cuddles and time spent holding him.  Their personalities are different, but there's always enough mommy to go around, nonetheless.

Answer 6

Hello there!  I used to think the same thing when I was pregnant with Riley.  Would I love her any less or more than I love my son?  The answer is once you hold your new baby your love for that baby is instant and just as strong as your love for your other children.  I love my kids the same and I am closely bonded to both of them.  Don't worry about a thing.  You will have so much love for your kids that you won't know what to do with it all, lol.  :)

Answer 7

Nope, well I have twins- but still one is older than the other.  But really I don't have a favorite or anything.  They are both extremely special, and talented in their own ways, and we connect in different ways.

Answer 8

I only have one as well...not sure if that will change or not.....but I don't think that you love the first born more than any others....I think there is definitely a bond with the first born...you "taught" each other how to be mother and child.......she will always be the first belly laugh you heard that first toddling baby steps you saw....but I don't think that means you will not feel that endless love for any other children you have..each child will be different, unique in their personality, likes and dislikes and you will bond with each of them differently..but with an equal love