Does your mate/partner/spouse go out on weekly dinners w/their friends more than w/you??

Question

Is it common for couples after several yrs. of being together for one partner to go out and socialize w/friends 2-3 times per week? and have dinner at restaurants w/his friends like twice per week?

He says it's because "I'm always working weekends"/but I remember when I didn't work weekends and we didn't go out to eat that much together, only for the 1st few yrs. together.

When he's home, usually I make dinner for him, and we watch a movie.

But he is always on a weekly basis eating at a restaurant and fastfood place twice a week w/that guy[s]

I guess I married a 'mans man' :--(

Answer 1

As long as he really is just having dinner out with his friends and not someone else. You need to check that out.

Answer 2

You have to understand that when your man isn't out with friends...he's with you! Maybe at first he's feeling a little suffocated because he's not used to being with you ALL the time. Give him some space to get adjusted! Talk about your feelings though, tell him you think it's odd that he spends a lot of his time with his guy friends and not you. I've been married for about 16 months now and I still have regular sleepovers with my best friend who has been married for 4 years and has 2 children. I hang out with my girlfriends about 3 nights a week...Hubby does the same! Just because you got married doesn't mean you have to give up your social lives...It'll make for a healthier marriage to spend some time doing your own thing with your own people! Try it!!!

Answer 3

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and this has been an issue before. My jealousy and suspicion finally blew up one night and we talked it over. He didn't even realize that it was bugging me because I didn't say anything to him. So step one is to talk to him about it. The other problem I had with it was that I didn't know WHO he was going out with so we aired that out also. So step TWO is to find out who his friends are. My conversation went something like this: I understand your need for independence and fun with your friends, but I also have a need to know who these guys are and what kind of people they are. Do you think we could get together with some of your friends (or double date a few times if they are in relationships) so I could meet them and feel more comfortable with you been out so frequently? If your man is not ok with you meeting the friends THEN I would think something was up. Most importantly you should tell him specifics about how your feeling....ex: I am feeling a little jealous/sad/angry/left out when you spend so much time away from home. Do you think we could go to the movies/have a picnic/go for a drive after dinner sometime this week too?

Answer 4

He has forgotten his marriage vows....to cling to his wife forsaking all others...

Answer 5

Well I've been married for 5 yrs, but together for 9, but no my husband does not do this.....even before we had children.

I don't know if I'd describe the situation or man as a "mans man".  To me it is inconsiderate, but of course you know him, and I do not...so what does your gut tell you????  It usually is right.

Good Luck and take care :)

Answer 6

are you sure its a guy? guys and guys usually go out to the pub or stay at a mates house drinking or something. you should probably just tell him, 'im fine with you hanging with your freinds and stuff, but would you please let me know that you actually care about me too and are willing to do fun things with me as well.'

but if it was me i would assume he was cheating.

Answer 7

your complaint or concern should be directed to your spouse -not Yahoo.  perhaps, your communication problems are the source of what's wrong in your marriage.

Answer 8

NO!  my spouse and I are always together.  i got out every couple of months if I want to..  not weekly.. something is up.  Your man's man is up to no good.