Doesn't he treat him better than me?

Question

So today was my 16th birthday, and it was cool at school and all. But when my dad gave me a present it was a box of chocolate! yes a box of chocolate, and i don't even like chocolate!! You know what my brother when my dad wants to buy his present, my dad finds out what he wants and buys it no matter the price. All my brothers gifts are expensive! Last year he bought me a toy for 5 year old kids. You know it feels so bad, i am crying as i write, that he doesn't even care what i want. You know anything works! I am not jealous, if i was i wouldnt feel so happy for my brother when he gets his presents.

Doesn't he treat him(my brother) better then me? :(

Answer 1

i would say yes. Just talking to your dad about it and tell him that you appreciate what you dot but it just that you think your brother gets treated better.

Answer 2

You're basing this on the giving of presents, how does your father treat you in other aspects of life, is he more supportive and caring towards your brothers than you?. It may be that he's just clueless as to what to buy his daughter who will soon be a woman and he still sees you as his little girl, hence the chocs and little girl's toys. Have a talk with him about how you feel.

Answer 3

simple answer?

yes.

but this  is a problem between you and  your dad- maybe you need to address the relationship and confront him in a mature way.

Answer 4

Maybe he feels insecure when considering what he should get you? It does seem like an unfair regard that he gives to your brother, but maybe it's because you and your brother have different bondings with your father. Or perhaps your dad just doesn't understand the feelings and thoughts of a teenage girl...You should talk to him about the matter, and see where it goes from there. I'm sure it's just something that could be worked out.

Happy Birthday, smile! Whatever happens, enjoy finally being sixteen! =]

Answer 5

its really hard to say maybe he didn't know you didn't like chocolate or forgot. i wouldn't go jumping to conclusions about it. however it does seem odd especially  if he knows you dont like chocolate. i would talk to him about it and let him know how it made you feel and he will know next time. if he doesn't do much about it and stuff like that than sadly it will seem like he doesn't care about you. but go talk to him and so how it goes.  

Answer 6

I think your dad just did SO much planning with your brother that he forgot to get you a present.....maybe your brother said he wanted a huge party and maybe you didn't ask.

It's OK. Be Happy! :)

Answer 7

I think you should sit your dad down and tell him that you are feeling left out and upset that your brother is appreciated more than you are.

I hope you work things out.

Answer 8

Is that your step brother? Is that your step father? I've seen this many times. Your brother is the newest member of the family so there going to give him all of the attention because he is the baby. But i can say though a box of chocolate for your 16th birthday is kind of rude,not right, etc. You should just ask him about him and let him know how you feel.

Answer 9

My father was kinda the same but it was when it came to other people. Like if I were to ask him for $10 he would say no but if my friend or family member would he had his wallet out. I had lots of issues with my dad and the only way I got through to him was telling him. But not in front of anyone. When you talk to him don't point any fingers. Just start off by telling him how you feel emotionally. Ask him if he just doesn't know what to get a girl?? Ask him why he didn't ask you what you wanted for your birthday?? Let him know your not being a brat or ungrateful. Tell him when its your birthday it's very special to you and you just wanted something that had more thought. That even if he gave you a card and expressed how much of a gift you are in his life. If he still doesn't get it give him examples. But don't be like you always, you never, or why are you like that. Make sure at the end you tell him that you love him and thanks for the gift. If your to shy to tell him in person write a letter. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!

Answer 10

of course he is treating your brother better than you. if my dad gave me a box of chocolates for my birthday, id be like WTF! unless they were imported expensive chocolates and he had proof that they were.