Domestic Violence - Perp or victims fault?

Question

I was just on a forum this morning to ask a few questions regarding my situation with my ex, afterwards i read through some of the threads and was shocked to find victims of dv being attacked, some were saying that they knowingly got in to this relationship and now that they have left they just want to cry about it and in cases use it to stop the perp from having access with their children. I am quite frankly disgusted by this attitude having been there myself, what do you think?

Answer 1

The ignorance of people towards domestic violence is so sad in this day and age!  It is ALWAYS the fault of the perp and not the victim.

These are small minded, idiots, who do not have a clue what it is like to live in fear every day, and have your self-esteem eaten away at until you feel as if you deserve to be treated badly!

A very good friend of mine went through this for years before getting the courage up to leave him.  She was in a womans refuge for 6 months & had no money.  

Answer 2

There is NEVER justification for domestic violence

Answer 3

i suffered dv, my bloke is built like hulk holgan x2!! he was sooo nasty and violent, but i always knew what was gonna happen n never took myself out of the situation. don't get me wrong, its not the vics fault at all, but sometimes we don't help ourselves either. I am still with him, but (after a lot of hard work and time) i now wear the trousers. there is always the chance he could hit me again sure, but we have gone to councillin and i never backed down from the charges i brought against him, but now i treat the whole relationship differently. i'm soooo lucky that i could turn the situation round, and i would never want anyone to stay in dv thinking that one day things will change. the only reason i wear the trousers now is because i took myself away from the situation and we built it back up from scratch. I now live on my own with the kids and we just date.  but never be fooled by them!!!! they will twist you up and kick you around as long as you keep yourself in that situation. LEAVE!!!! never take it!!!! its not your fault and you are worth soooo much more.

Answer 4

WALK A MILE IN THERE SHOES,,,PEACE

Answer 5

Perp obviously.

Answer 6

these victims of dv did not asked to be mentally and phisically abused and when they get the courage to leave there partner they should be treated with respect not be made to feel more abused by other people