Domestic violence?

Question

can anyone tell me what there views on these issues are. Please be specific..

Answer 1

It's bad. I oppose it.

Answer 2

I've seen it first hand not only in my family, but in the lives of those around me the devastating aftermaths of Domestic Violence and abuse.  While working as an advocate in the Navy, part of my duties included dealing with women and men who where victims of domestic violence. Let me tell you, some of the things I've seen husbands and wives do to their spouses out of spite or pure evil was and is outrageously ridiculous. I personally can never reason, or grasp the concept of someone finding the nerve too physically and mentally abused another human being.

Domestic violence is very much alive in my family on both my mother and fathers side. Almost every woman in my family has fallen victim to some form of mental of physical abuse (including my grandmother, mother, sister, and myself). I was in a relationship for about a year ½ with this guy who would make it a point every day to tell me how incompetent I was, and that I would never advance in my career in the Navy. And you would think that after watching my mother endure the same treatment from my father, I would have known better. But history has a way of repeating itself, it was just up to me to be the one to “press pause” and start a new record. My father’s abusive cycle was like clock work, he would start beating my mother on a Thursday night (when he would get paid) and end his rampage around Sunday evening or early Monday morning. The more he submerged himself in the bottle; he would step up his time line of abuse to Wednesday and carry it over to Sunday. As kids, we would always have a ready bag with a change of clothes and toiletries because we knew that come Wednesday night, or Thursday morning we would end up over at our grandmothers. We missed school due to bruises we earned trying to fight him off my mother, he mentally and physically battered my sister and I (making it a point to reassure us that we where nothing because we would become women), and he would bully my brothers into submission. I feared that I too would be on the same path of destruction like my mother.

I witnessed a woman take a crow bar and beat her husband across his back because she believed he was cheating on her with an acquaintance they both knew. He suffered spinal cord swelling and damage, broken ribs, the works. After her arrest we found that she’d stabbed him a few months prior to the incident that law enforcement witnessed first hand.  And let’s not forget about the kids. There was recently 4 girls found dead in a row home in Washington D.C. who’s mother had been reported to CPS for both child neglect and abuse several times. The only way the girl’s bodies were found was because the school they attended decided to finally try and contact someone after about three weeks if I’m not mistaken. Their little bodies were so badly decomposed that it was hard to identify who they where, much less find the mother.

Abuse in general is wrong, horrific, traumatizing, and in most cases fatal for those who endure it. Abusers should be persecuted to the fullest. Any man or women tried and found guilty Domestic abuse or human traffic (because that’s sexual abuse as well) should spend no less that 15 years in Prison, with some seriously heavy legal fines. If the person or persons they’ve abused die at their hands that should be an automatic death sentence in my opinion. There is NO EXUCESS for abuse.

Answer 3

Domestic violence, the real deal, is inexcusable.  I've seen posts in here about women who've been beaten until they stop feeling the blows.  That's sickening.  

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who have abused the term itself.  A lot of people insert the word "emotional" in front of things that have not occurred in order to make the occurrence real.  The law actually allows this!  I've encountered many, many people whose concept of emotional abuse is not getting their way.  Not being able to immediately resolve a situation, or not resolve it as wished is suddenly emotional abuse.  I know a woman who feels emotionally abused because her husband told he can make more money, since that's what his wife wants him to do, he'll look for a second job.  Ooooh nooooo, this is emotional abuse, he's taking time away from her instead of magically poofing up more money.  Ohhhh Noooooo, and he raised his voice in the subsequent argument....Hee's Sccaaaaarrryyyy.  Shheeee (shiver shiver) is afraid for heerr life bbbbecause he's vvvviolent and abusive....waaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh

Answer 4

Domestic violence should not be tolerated in the 21.century, however, there is a problem with fairness. Increasingly the laws are being created based on feminist views only, and it is very difficult to introduce a second opinion. The main issues are with the males being portrayed as the only and natural abusers, and that is obviously wrong.

When looking for a fair policy one usually has to go through several sources to make an honest, unbiased opinion. It is usually recommended to avoid websites and other sources by groups such as the Women's Aid, as they are extremely biased and only add to the positive discrimination.

Answer 5

I can tell you that if it happens once it WILL happen again no matter which s*x is doing the abusing.  All the I am sorrys and don't know what got into mes and it will never happen agains are not going to happen.

Lots of people are killed or maimed for life because of this stupidity.

There are lots of forms of abuse also.  Some of it is mental and is as bad as the physical form.  

If you are told you are stupid or put down in some other form that is your first clue to leave the situation.  If someone raises a hand to you don't wait for them to do it again.

Do not under any circumstances inform the abuser that you are going to leave.  Just wait and do it when they are not around. If there are children involved take them with you. Lots of times this person will take it out on the kids after you leave.  

There are shelters all over this country where you can go. Get your plan and just go.  Deal with the fall out later.

Just remember that you do not have to deal with abuse in any form.  

If you suspect an elderly person is being abused then get them out of the situation asap also.  

If its an animal being abused get that animal out of the situation also.

Abuse is an epidemic and as an emergency room nurse have seen it in all its ramifications.  

Remember if it happens once it will happen again.

Do not turn someone in for abuse when it is false. It makes it much harder for the ones who are being abused for real to escape it.

Just know that the only one in this world responsible for your happiness and well being is you

Answer 6

all violence should be confined to the home.  Keep the dog barking to a minimum.

Answer 7

Domestic violence should be limited to actual acts of domestic violence. Today if I was arguing with my fiance to loudly and the neighbors heard and called the police... They would come and take me to jail against my fiance's wishes and even if i never touched her. It is a zero tolerance policy and they are required to remove the bigger of the two parties (which most often is the male) from the situation. I would then be charged with misdemeanor domestic abuse and have my record tarnished.

Answer 8

I'm against it?